Do you have a close friend?

I used to have a lady that I got really close with (as friends) in my area. We would talk all throughout the day, every day. It started with me buying some of her homemade candles and we just started talking and added each other on FB. Then she started messaging me the most random things about her day and at first I thought it was a bit strange but I would talk to her about whatever randomness she messaged me about and then I started telling her random things, as well, until basically we were sharing our whole days with one another and going to each other over everything. We quickly became best friends and started hanging out regularly and our kids would play. This lasted for a few months and then our kids started not getting along so well together so it caused us to not get along so well together either. I miss having that close of a friendship. I’ve never had a friendship that close before but it would never work out between us. Maybe one day I’ll make another friend that close. Would love to hear your friend stories 😊

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in10RjFox · M

I's not good to have such close friends that you share everything and get to meet often, as there will always be a phase that would make each repel. So it is better to maintain the relationships in a distance, where you catch up once a week. Each can have a few more like that so things don't get too monotonous.

Like in philosophy, objects are visible only from a distance. The more you get close the more you lose sight and it gets dark when too close.

Zeusdelight · 61-69, M

@in10RjFox I do not agree with this at all. We are a communal, interdependent species, we are not meant to be islands.

Close relationships can be a source of life-giving nourishment, hilarious stories and unfaltering support.

They teach us about ourselves and our ability to love and forgive.

in10RjFox · M

@Zeusdelight Yes.. but not too close that your personal lives start merging and invasion of privacy starting to occur. In the case, as parents they should act in a matured manner of keeping their friendship and that of their childrens' separte. Children not getting along is no reason for adults to split up. They should keep their channel separate. Even if children complain about the other's children, they should know how to handle it without affecting their relationship.

Zeusdelight · 61-69, M

@in10RjFox Invasion of privacy is an aspect of choice in developing relationships. It is a decision point rather than a defined barrier.

In the complex area of children and parent relationships, they will affect each other. They will never be separate channels. That is the reality of parenting and becoming friends with parents.

in10RjFox · M

@Zeusdelight they should not affect each other. That's the art of parenting. Matured parents know how to create separate channels. Reality is a perception. Eventuality is not to be construed as reality.

Zeusdelight · 61-69, M

@in10RjFox What are the criteria for "Matured" parenting? Any definition I have seen revolves around the concepts of mutual respect and support.

in10RjFox · M

@Zeusdelight Matured is seasoned.. so one knows what is major minor trivial issue and how to deal with it without making a big deal out of it.

Matured is indulging without over indulging.

Matured parenting is also guiding children to handle issues in a matured manner by dealing with things patiently instead of acting impulsively.

Zeusdelight · 61-69, M

@in10RjFox So, judging Matured is entirely subjective? It would seem that there is a significant crossing of channels in your definition.

in10RjFox · M

@Zeusdelight just accept that you are not matured enough for the subject and walk out. Even immatured ones can judge matured ones. But that does not mean Matured have to stoop down to the level.

Zeusdelight · 61-69, M

@in10RjFox Oh, so that is a mature response to a challenge - disparagement, judgement and name-calling.

in10RjFox · M

@Zeusdelight YES. Challenge is among equals, who can argue right. Not with those who don't know how to place arguments and have difficulty accepting explanation.

Zeusdelight · 61-69, M

@in10RjFox LOL

in10RjFox · M

@Zeusdelight 🤣🤣. Now go and ask your children how matured you were as a parent.. they will tell you how immatured you were , just arguing for nuts.

Zeusdelight · 61-69, M

@in10RjFox And this is still your mature response????

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