Buying friendship with gifts

I've once read a story about a multimillionaire in the Daily paper like decades ago. How he went from riches to rock bottom trying to buy expensive gifts for his fake friends who simply abandoned him the moment he went broke.

[Random two cent mind dump]

Made me think about a post a few days ago. How easily people can take advantage of these types of people. I don't think I could accept free stuff ...it makes one feel obligated to them... nothing in life is free without any consequences.

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FullerSchmidt · 36-40, MVIP

The thing is, that's what makes you different from these people.

There is absolutely nothing that legally obliges you to repay kind-for-kind, if someone chooses to give you something.

Perhaps in times gone by, society would have instilled virtues like reciprocity, which would make you feel obligated to them, but in reality you're simply not.

Even if you don't like them, you can just take their gift and ghost them, and nothing bad will ever happen to you.

However, if the person thinks he's buying friendship,at least be honest with them. Either tell them that the only reason you're associating with them is cause of the free stuff, so they know that they're just leasing your companionship, or don't take the gift, and tell them that you don't actually like then, and their gift won't change that.

KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

There's nothing wrong with buying gifts for people.Just make sure they are the right people.And when it comes down to it, I can't be fake.That's why I don't f*** with a lot of people though.Honestly I am the type.Are you either like you or I don't. But there are a lot of people that are like that.They only like you conditionally

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KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

@FullerSchmidt I've had people do that before and if it was a one-time thing I write it off. But when I know that they intend to fuck me over after they have borrowed a sufficient amount I close out their account. So either have the backbone to say no or give them the gifts and help them out but if you were being played have the spine to cash out their chips or don't get upset about it. I understand your position but getting irritated at me isn't going to help make your case

FullerSchmidt · 36-40, MVIP

@KingofBones1 I am not at all irritated at you. I'm sorry if that is how I came across.

I'm just describing a common pattern of financial abuse which occurs amongst friends / acquaintances regularly nowadays.

Whilst I'll admit to having been burned by this in the past, it won't work on me a second time. Just saying for the benefit of the thread.

I wasn't at all discounting what you wrote originally. And that is if a person is being genuinely generous, and wants to give something, with zero expectations of compensation, either now or in the future, then that's great. However if you examine your motives, I doubt that anyone is really that autistic.

The fact that you mention an "account" implies that you're keeping some sort of ledger to value that friendship and whether or not it's an asset or a liability.

Which is totally valid. Some friends you're better off without.

KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

@FullerSchmidt I'm glad you have learned that that's good very good and I don't blame you one bit. There's nothing wrong with being a friend to someone who genuinely wants to be a friend. And being a good friend you should always help your friends out if you can. Just choose your friends wisely because remember friends did not turn into enemies enemies just simply stop trying to pretend that they are your friend. Good luck to you and have a wonderful day today

FullerSchmidt · 36-40, MVIP

Shame on those friends for taking those gifts.
He thought he was buying friendship, however he was only ever leasing company.

Deep down, most humans are jealous, particularly of people who consider themselves "rich". You see, regardless of how much money I had, I would never consider myself "rich" (until of-course I managed to top Elon Musk's fortune and become the wealthiest man in the world, then it's undeniable) but until then, depending on who you compare yourself to, you're also dirt poor.

No matter how generous he was, nothing would make those people genuinely like him, because deep down they all wanted his demise and failure.

He would have been better off either making friends who had more money than him, or simply not disclosing his wealth to his friends. After all, what is the point of money. If it's to spend on lavish lifestyles, then he got what he wanted.

The fact that he didn't invest it, such that he could have lived a modest but comfortable life, without ever needing to work again, proves that he's not the sharpest tool in the shed.

Not that he would have to stop working. Personally, I love my job, and I wouldn't stop doing it, even if I was wealthy enough not to need to.

MyNameIsHurl · 41-45, F

I'm the same as you in that regard

Nightwings · 31-35, F

And here I am, just waiting for a rich person to adopt me... 👀

SinlessOnslaught · M

@Nightwings I already did 🤗

Nightwings · 31-35, F

@SinlessOnslaught 🌷 🍃 ☁ 💚

SinlessOnslaught · M

@Nightwings 🩵🍃🤗

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