Don't you think honesty stains friendship ?

I went to my best friend, and told her in all honesty what I did not like about her behavior with people, and the things she does to me that I don't like; like showing off and things, and we had a conversation where I told her everything I didn't like and she told me everything she did not like. We really opened up to each other.
But since that day, there is a really strange atmosphere when we're together, I don't know. It wasn't like that before that conversation. Can't really explained. I still love her to death, and I'm sure she still loves me , but there is this strange air when we're together now....

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SStarfish ·

Being honest does nothing but help.. but being a condescending hateful judgmental asshole is no way to have a friend

ArwenPandora · 26-30, F

I wasn't condescending, I told her my point of view, with arguments, and she did the same. I think she shows off a lot, she thinks she has all the knowledge of Earth, and she sometimes acts condescending with me ( Like, omg you're so ugly today. Or you have one eye that's more hooded than the other. But I realised I did the same to her when I say that we could wash dishes with her hair, and that if it wasn't for her eyes, she'd be ugly. But she doesn't take these comments seriously, she doesn't really care. But I do, when there are people around, don't mind when it's only us two )

SW-User

Honesty ruins things for anyone who can't deal with it which is nearly everyone. So yeah, it can be a problem.

SW-User

It can. People in general don't like hearing things that conflict with their beliefs and opinions. It forces them to struggle with their thoughts, and they typically resort to antipathy to avoid that struggle. That's why it's important to make friends who are willing to listen. They're much more likely to respect your honesty. It also depends on how you frame your opinions as well. Coming off too strong or too blunt naturally tends to make people defensive

SW-User

I think honesty shouldnt strain a best friendship. But a regular friendship? Yeah maybe to a point. srr about that fam

curiosi · 61-69, F

People don't generally like to hear things like that even if they are the truth.

SW-User

Yeah. That doesn't usually improve friendships...

Flenflyys · 31-35, F

Yea you put a stake in that friendship

TheCoolestCat · 31-35, M

yawn.... boring

ArwenPandora · 26-30, F

Very helpful :)

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