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How to do you make friends again?

When I was younger, I never really thought about this question. Since when i was young, i come to friends and friends come to me. But nowadays, that i am older i suddenly realize that i have no friend or best friend at all that i can share my secrets with without any plasticness or filters. I realized that i am all alone without my family and sometimes as being the middle child i am overlooked so i wonder since i have a messed up fam. Who can i turn to? And its friends but the problem is i don't have REAL friends or friends at all now that i am a little bit older. So how do you make friends again?
Loretta78 · 46-50, F
I swear: Since my 20th age I‘ve never had a real friend in life. Not once.

I was always alone and I am probably the very last person who can advise someone else how to make friends in real life… 😐
I am sorry to hear that you are alone and suffering under these circumstances.


The older you get, the harder it is to make friends, but that doesn't mean it's impossible. If you have hobbies, find like-minded people... for example, if you like sports, join a sports club or a gym.... go out... go to a bar or disco ... there are many ways to meet people who can become friends. Be courageous and try it :)
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
Though work, fellowship through church if you're a church goer, community meetups, volunteer organizations, community education / art & craftwork classes.
CassandraSissy · 26-30, TVIP
Sorry to hear this, sweetie.....

I'm around your age, I guess, but I've never had any issues - since I 'came out' anyways, and became trans - with making friends and acquaintances. I'm quite a bright, bubbly and slightly sarcastic type of person which does attract people to talk and to spend time with me.

Going to bars, concerts (i've met some lovely people - and keep in touch with them regularly - from concerts) , sports clubs, work events etc...be around people...say hi...see what happens.

😊
inhshm · 22-25, F
go out, things happen naturally, the more you put yourself out there youll meet new people
Fluffybull · F
Just get out there and do things and meet people. Join clubs, do voluntary work. Do you work? Are there people there whom you talk to more than others?
Reflective · 36-40, M
@Fluffybull agreed, go somewhere regularly and with time you will start to create friendships. Have fun on your own and others will want to be around you.
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
Well putting yourself out there to meet and receive new friends would be the first step. I don't know your social situation, but I would suspect there are social and religious organizations that would help you find connections and new resources.

If any of these old friendships are valuable, perhaps you should reach out and try to rekindle the relationship.

Obviously social media sites like this one are another option, but I strongly recommend forging relationships in "the real world" and not just social media. It is much more fulfilling.
Repete · 61-69, M
The world is changing in many ways. Trust is hard to build and seems harder as you get older. I find or found that when I finished school most of my friends had their own lives and so we scattered the only true friends that I trust (probably to much) are the ones I’ve stayed in contacted with. Now I meet people and talk with many but never gets as good as the old ones.

You have to get out mingle but also have to be very careful in today’s world . Friends are there but a lot more users . Be careful and good luck.
PoeticPlay · 51-55, M
In order to gain a good friend, you must first be a good friend.

Be the example of what you want around you.
Havesomefun2 · 56-60, M
Married 20 years but it’s hard to feel love of someone that can inspire you c
ABCDEF7 · M
[i]"As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones."[/i]

[i]Don't expect your friend to be a perfect person. But, Help your friend to become a perfect person. That's true friendship.[/i] - Mother Teresa
Poppies · 61-69, F
Pet owners make friends with other pet owners. Sometimes people make friends with their coworkers. Parents make friends with the parents of their children's friends.
Havesomefun2 · 56-60, M
Only a young one there is a lot of people that are happy to meet you
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
If you want a friend, BE a friend: listen, be supportive, be generous, etc.

 
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