Family and friend challenges

I have 2 sets of friends. We all used to hang together but one of them got defensive and went offensive. Then the “tables turned” and the door was slammed shut between them. . I miss that we used to spend weekends together so now we have to split our holidays (my family) between my two best friends. I know that in life everything happens for a reason. I guess my thought are childlike. Wishing for the good old days. I know deep down they love each other, but during trying times they (like anyone ) are easily are irritable? I just have to accept it. Here’s my question: do I or do I not tell them., oh hey, we’re traveling with …. And visa versa. Do I just say we have plans? I’m used to being an open book. I used to say “you can join us too” so it’s a challenge to be tight lipped. Around them. What’s the right thing to do???keep it simple? Say only the minimum. :-(

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metadata123 · 41-45, F

Ive allowed myself to have one huge friend challenge and it has ended after 5 years. All this emotional investment i felt. I blame him , i thought he was my best friend.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@metadata123 well that’s the problem… when 2 people blame each other or refuse to accept one another’s short comings. Sometimes one person is experiencing too much pain or jumping to conclusions…I don’t know. I think they are both amazing but one of the two always thinks he is right and like to gloat about it. Gloating can be annoying to be around

metadata123 · 41-45, F

@Mindful i would have worked through it and talked about it. but he didn’t

Mindful · 56-60, F

@metadata123 it’s very painful to look at one’s shortcomings or admit selfish ness… if we deny the truth about ourselves, we cause chaos in others… you are probably better off without this person because denial is a habit and he would have denied something else eventually.

metadata123 · 41-45, F

@Mindful i decided tonight to make a post about him. i would love for you to read it. when you have time. there of course is more to the story but ... this is what came to my head tonight after thinking about it , which haven't for so long and plus there was a spider and i couldn't find it lol so i started to itch all over and had to get up.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@metadata123 thanks for sharing! Sorry I fell asleep