If you consider someone a friend would allow people to trash talk them? And if you do what is your definitely of a friend and does it include loyalty?

I don't know if this is right but this is what I do:
I would listen... if I respond at all would be just "oh ok." Then depending on whether this would negatively affect my friend, I probably tell them.
🤷‍♀️ I think people trash talk me all the time... I've never gotten word back of anyone defending me. But one time at least someone told me... I appreciated it. They wouldn't tell who said it unless I agreed to say nothing.
On the other hand, I try to avoid rumor mill... it is good knowing who's fake and sometimes you don't know that unless someone lets in on what they say behind your back... just try to stay wiser than my enemies but their words aren't a concern. I have someone in control of everything making provision for me... I can just leave it up to him.

No, NEVER! There was someone on this site who "trash-talked" my best friend on here over an old posting. She read into it a meaning that wasn't there, no matter WHAT she thought. He told me, I went after her (I told her to mind her own business and not to call my friends any names)and reported her for harassment to another SW member. The monitors agreed and warned her. Both of us blocked her - BUT NOT before she accused him of starting another post with MY SW NAME ON IT.

My definition of a friend? Someone who supports you and defends you. That is the true definition of loyalty. Someone you can trust with your last dollar or your last cookie - you'll always get either back.

I'm not going to participate. That's first. Certainly show my dismay non verbally. That's second. Speak my disappointment about them talking shit behind someone back. That's third. If at any time I come under attack I'll apologize for my ignorance and withdraw from the discussion.

Then, after I hear them out. I may later ask them not to continue talking about a person behind their back. Promise to investigate or address the matter. And do do tactfully with the subject under scrutiny diplomatically as I can.

Perhaps then, if it's something important I'll decide who to cut ties with.

That's usually high school behavior. Adults should fight their own battles. I wouldn't listen to the trash talk tho

I would defend them unless they actually did the things they are saying they did. Then my friend should own up to their wrongs we all make mistakes

Everyone may experience something different then say me so I don't know and can't say one way or another

Nobody trash talks about anyone I love.. hell no..

I’d digress my energy from immaturity.

I would not let anyone trash talk my friends. If you are my friend i am loyal.