why is it so hurtful when someone doe not want to to have a child?

why is it so hurtful when your mom or someone doe not want to to have a child?
My mom does not want me to have a child now even though I do not want to have a child it hurts me that she does not want me to have a child now my dad is the opposite he wants me to have a child more than anything. she just thinks that I do not deserve to be a parent, that I dont have the skills to teach and raise a kid. I dont understand why i am so upset with that if I do not want to have a child.

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Mattie0005 · 56-60, F

Awwwww, honey. Of course you're hurt by your mom. I don't know your situation, nor your age. I'm a mom of a 29 year old son. As a mom, to say he doesn't deserve a child is beyond mean, and borderline abusive. I know it's difficult but you MUST ignore your mother's words and follow your own heart. I wish you all the best...

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

@Mattie0005 thank you yea it is terribly hurtful. She claims i over react on everything. i need that medication that makes me stop feeling this that some depressed people get where they don't have emotions about anything. I really want to love my mom, i dont understand why i cant get thoes feelings for telling myself those words. 🥺

Mattie0005 · 56-60, F

@Girlyfriendcollecting No! You do not want to not feel anything. I tried it years ago, stuffed everything down with pills. DON"T Do IT! I too, had a mother from hell. I left home at 17. You are 24; be your own person. NEVER, EVER let another, even your supposed "mother" dictate how you feel about anything and everything.

Justme264 · 70-79, M

Their view are very hurtful to you - seems unfair

SW-User

Well, it's okay to be an imperfect parent. As long as you are willing to learn the preparation of parenting for the future, and take every step from your experience of becoming a parent.

Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M

Maybe she’s just looking out for you cause she knows how hard it is. She doesn’t want to see you suffer

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

@Quetzalcoatlus so having me is making her suffer? I guess to her my life is worth suffering for.

Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M

@Girlyfriendcollecting It’s suffering of you’re too young for kids

MarmeeMarch · M

Oh you are 24 - then I would say - do what you want. Exactly how old are you going to get before you stop worrying about what others THINK ?

Peaceful · F

Well wouldn't you have learned the skulls from her for the most part? Was she a good parent to you as a kid?

SW-User

How old are you?

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

@SW-User Im 24

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