Anyone think this is stupid af?

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This kid is retarded

She’s using him

They really do love each other and it will work out you’ll see!

This ain’t gonna work out, probably gonna end in divorce

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So I gotta buddy who has been dating this girl since the summer of 2017. They met in the gym and spent a week together in person then she left and went home to the Phillipines. They then spent the rest of their relationship Skyping. He finally went to visit her in the phillipines and was there for a total of 24 days. His main reason for being there that he told me was that he was trying to also lose weight and fat to meet the requirements for the Coast Guard. (I’m enlisting as well and have a boot camp date on April 10th, he hasn’t even talked to a recruiter yet cuz he’s been trying to lose weight and fat for MEPS.) so he just came back home and he just told me that he got married to this girl while he was over there and that they planned it. He said it just felt right. So he’s a 19 year old who graduated high school not even 2 years ago yet and hasn’t known this girl for even a year let alone spending an entire month with her in person and now their getting married. Does anyone else get the feeling that she’s using him for US citizenship or that their both just really really stupid 19 year olds that don’t know any better?

PS this is the same guy who our senior year of high school was telling his girlfriend of 1 month that he loved her and they told each other they were in love and then she just dropped him after another 2 months for not really any reason.

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GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

It doesn't matter if he married her in the Philippines... because that marriage isn't going to be recognized by Immigration, for purposes of granting her citizenship. Even more so, because they didn't even establish that this relationship wasn't anything more than exactly what you suspect it to be-- a "legal" workaround for her green card.

Hope they enjoy their long distance relationship.

Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@GwydionFrost see that’s what I thought but he said that it is legal and everything in the US and that they are now working on getting her a k visa for US citizenship which will take months until she can live here. He’s supposed to be doing all of that while also going to Coast Guard boot camp in a few months.

GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

@Daniel1120 And they will look at the length of the relationship, and the fact that they've only known each other a short amount of time, combined with the lack of evidence supporting the strong, established relationship, and DENY it.

So, yeah. They can say that they are working on her VISA, but I promise you-- they are going to take the money, make them jump through all the hoops, and then DENY it.

Did your friend forget what President we have at the moment, and his stance on immigrants...?

Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@GwydionFrost idk man I don’t know much about this type of stuff cuz I’ve never planned on marrying a foreigner. All I know is he is married her in the phillipines and says it applies to here as well.

GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

@Daniel1120 He should read this. Of course, since he is convinced he's all good, maybe you should just keep it as a reference when things go horribly off course. ;)

https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/marrying-citizen-the-philippines-how-get-green-card-your-new-spouse.html

GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

According to information provided by the U.S. consulate, before you can obtain a marriage license to wed in the Philippines, you, the U.S. citizen or resident, must first submit a "Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage" from your embassy. Unfortunately, the U.S. embassy does not feel it can provide this exact document, and will instead give you an “Affidavit In Lieu of Certificate of Legal Capacity to Marry.” Some of the local registrars have been known to refuse to accept this affidavit; you will have to find one who does accept it. Instructions on how to make an appointment to obtain this Affidavit are given on the “U.S. Citizens Services” page of the embassy website.

At a minimum, the U.S. citizen will need to present the documents below – and additional items (such as baptismal and confirmation certificates) if it’s a church rather than a civil wedding:

evidence that any of your past marriages have ended, such as a divorce decree or death certificate

U.S. passport

documentation regarding paternal consent or advice if you are under age 24 (as described below).

You can be legally married in front of a judge, minister, or other person authorized by the Philippines government. If either of you is between the ages of 18 and 21, you must provide written parental consent; and if either is between age 22 and 24, you must show that you have received parental advice. Philippine law does not allow marriages by anyone under 18.

You will need to plan ahead for a ten-day waiting period between the filing of your application for a marriage license and its issuance. The license is good for up to 120 days.

After the ceremony, you will need to wait another ten days before you can obtain a certificate of that marriage for purposes of U.S. immigration.

Note that this process took 20 of the 24 days he was there.