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Anyone think this is stupid af?

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This kid is retarded

She’s using him

They really do love each other and it will work out you’ll see!

This ain’t gonna work out, probably gonna end in divorce

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So I gotta buddy who has been dating this girl since the summer of 2017. They met in the gym and spent a week together in person then she left and went home to the Phillipines. They then spent the rest of their relationship Skyping. He finally went to visit her in the phillipines and was there for a total of 24 days. His main reason for being there that he told me was that he was trying to also lose weight and fat to meet the requirements for the Coast Guard. (I’m enlisting as well and have a boot camp date on April 10th, he hasn’t even talked to a recruiter yet cuz he’s been trying to lose weight and fat for MEPS.) so he just came back home and he just told me that he got married to this girl while he was over there and that they planned it. He said it just felt right. So he’s a 19 year old who graduated high school not even 2 years ago yet and hasn’t known this girl for even a year let alone spending an entire month with her in person and now their getting married. Does anyone else get the feeling that she’s using him for US citizenship or that their both just really really stupid 19 year olds that don’t know any better?

PS this is the same guy who our senior year of high school was telling his girlfriend of 1 month that he loved her and they told each other they were in love and then she just dropped him after another 2 months for not really any reason.

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GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

It doesn't matter if he married her in the Philippines... because that marriage isn't going to be recognized by Immigration, for purposes of granting her citizenship. Even more so, because they didn't even establish that this relationship wasn't anything more than exactly what you suspect it to be-- a "legal" workaround for her green card.

Hope they enjoy their long distance relationship.

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Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@GwydionFrost idk man I don’t know much about this type of stuff cuz I’ve never planned on marrying a foreigner. All I know is he is married her in the phillipines and says it applies to here as well.

GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

@Daniel1120 He should read this. Of course, since he is convinced he's all good, maybe you should just keep it as a reference when things go horribly off course. ;)

https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/marrying-citizen-the-philippines-how-get-green-card-your-new-spouse.html

GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

According to information provided by the U.S. consulate, before you can obtain a marriage license to wed in the Philippines, you, the U.S. citizen or resident, must first submit a "Legal Capacity to Contract Marriage" from your embassy. Unfortunately, the U.S. embassy does not feel it can provide this exact document, and will instead give you an “Affidavit In Lieu of Certificate of Legal Capacity to Marry.” Some of the local registrars have been known to refuse to accept this affidavit; you will have to find one who does accept it. Instructions on how to make an appointment to obtain this Affidavit are given on the “U.S. Citizens Services” page of the embassy website.

At a minimum, the U.S. citizen will need to present the documents below – and additional items (such as baptismal and confirmation certificates) if it’s a church rather than a civil wedding:

evidence that any of your past marriages have ended, such as a divorce decree or death certificate

U.S. passport

documentation regarding paternal consent or advice if you are under age 24 (as described below).

You can be legally married in front of a judge, minister, or other person authorized by the Philippines government. If either of you is between the ages of 18 and 21, you must provide written parental consent; and if either is between age 22 and 24, you must show that you have received parental advice. Philippine law does not allow marriages by anyone under 18.

You will need to plan ahead for a ten-day waiting period between the filing of your application for a marriage license and its issuance. The license is good for up to 120 days.

After the ceremony, you will need to wait another ten days before you can obtain a certificate of that marriage for purposes of U.S. immigration.

Note that this process took 20 of the 24 days he was there.

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Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@aaatheaaa I’ve actually known him since third grade and am friends with him but I along with another guy we both know and my girlfriend think this is really stupid. I mean do you think it’s a good idea for someone to get married after barely being with her let alone hardly even spending actual time together?

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Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@aaatheaaa I’m sorry what? Lmfao idgaf about attention from anyone on this site lmao you sound like a little bitch dude.

wakanda4eva · 26-30, F

well ur whole story is just painting him in a negative light without showing what kind of personality or morals he has

Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@wakanda4eva are you people kidding me? 😂😂 the dude has seen her once before in person. They haven’t even dated for a year. Any of his past relationships havent last beyond 3 months. None of his family has ever even met her.

wakanda4eva · 26-30, F

well I need to know what kind of person he is before I judge em lol some people just fall in love that quick like Romeo and Juliet or les miserables

Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@wakanda4eva well I can assure you he’s the type of person that just throws love around like it’s just a word.

Mondayschild · F

I know a few couples that met and married the exact same way. They have all been married a few years now and seem to be happy. They are American/ Philippine. Idk give them a chance

Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@Mondayschild I mean personally I think it’s really dumb and won’t work but I hope for the best for these guys.

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Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@heybrosiambrad17 what? You telling me it’s perfectly fine that he gets married after netting this girl in person twice and haven’t even dated for a year?

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Peekaboo20 · 26-30, F

I think you should express happiness for them and wish them well.

Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@Peekaboo20 I hope it does work out for the guy but honestly I don’t think it will.

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