Why do some people get so attached to you and then push you away?

After some time, they regret their decision and try to get in touch with you? Can't I do something to break this vicious cycle?

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SW-User

You can ignore them and not play their games. That's all I got.

luckranger71 · 51-55, M

@SW-User : This is the soundest advice. Cut off contact. The pattern will continue because it’s who they are.

iamharry · 26-30, M

@luckranger71 But as a friend, I feel sorry for them. I don't know, but to me, it sounds selfish to leave someone without getting at roots of the problem. Is there something will you like to suggest me so that I can help them?

greenmountaingal · 80-89, F

@iamharry You are not their therapist. You cannot "fix" them. You can only decide how you are going to deal with them. People who want you until they get bored, then get in touch when they are going through a lonely patch, only want you for their own convenience. They do not have a "problem." But by treating you casually and using you for their convenience, they may present a problem for you. One solution is to have boundaries and hold firmly to them. Trying to fix them or "help" them will not work. It will only bring you more of this exploitive behavior.