sharing information as a love language...
Once again I come here to babble about what's on my mind. This doesn't really come from anywhere specific but I saw something on twitter that made me think about how people have fallen out of my grace in the past.
I'm a person who loves to know stuff about stuff, I've always been very curious and I was that kid that always had questions, so throughout my life I've gathered a lot of fun facts and bits and pieces of information about a lot of different topics, and I'm relatively smart and good at explaining the things I know about to others. So sharing information has become one of my biggest ways to express my love to the people around me.
It happened to me with one person specifically that we became very closed friends and I instinctively did my information sharing about topics they didn't know a lot about, and as people seem to do, this person got a bit more attached to my knowledge than to me as an individual.
I don't like to brag about this because it's something that has truly bother me in the past and I do not consider myself a genius at all but i do retain a lot of information from many (quite obsessive) research sprees i've put myself into all my life so I can come through as a very knowledgeable person and a lot of people who come in contact with me often get wide eyed about everything I know, but this person specifically I had a big conflict with because it came to a point where they wouldn't talk to me if they didn't have a question about something that had nothing to do with me and every time i wanted to talk about something personal there was always an excuse for them to not talk to me. Always.
I was very confused by the situation because it took me a while to realize only I was giving something to the friendship, because I genuinely love sharing my knowledge so much that I get joy from it but I didn't realize a friendship goes both ways and I am not google like 😭
but anyway. always remember that all relationships go both ways and you don't have to ignore your needs for anyone. yoou deserve to be treated as a person too 💗
I'm a person who loves to know stuff about stuff, I've always been very curious and I was that kid that always had questions, so throughout my life I've gathered a lot of fun facts and bits and pieces of information about a lot of different topics, and I'm relatively smart and good at explaining the things I know about to others. So sharing information has become one of my biggest ways to express my love to the people around me.
It happened to me with one person specifically that we became very closed friends and I instinctively did my information sharing about topics they didn't know a lot about, and as people seem to do, this person got a bit more attached to my knowledge than to me as an individual.
I don't like to brag about this because it's something that has truly bother me in the past and I do not consider myself a genius at all but i do retain a lot of information from many (quite obsessive) research sprees i've put myself into all my life so I can come through as a very knowledgeable person and a lot of people who come in contact with me often get wide eyed about everything I know, but this person specifically I had a big conflict with because it came to a point where they wouldn't talk to me if they didn't have a question about something that had nothing to do with me and every time i wanted to talk about something personal there was always an excuse for them to not talk to me. Always.
I was very confused by the situation because it took me a while to realize only I was giving something to the friendship, because I genuinely love sharing my knowledge so much that I get joy from it but I didn't realize a friendship goes both ways and I am not google like 😭
but anyway. always remember that all relationships go both ways and you don't have to ignore your needs for anyone. yoou deserve to be treated as a person too 💗
