My neighbor asked me for help I have no idea how to help I have a new neighbor for a few months...

Jenny1234 · 56-60, M

Just tell her you don’t have any food and let her know where the nearest food bank is

GoFish ·

she's going to go broke hoarding it all
and then the storage units will take her stuff for non payment and sell it or dispose of it themselves .. she needs to let go of it all but shes too emotionally attached.. she's better off renting or buying a bigger house instead of losing money to storage units.. but interest is high these days.. she should just have it auctioned off before she loses it all

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

There must be a food pantry not too far. Many towns have one and I've needed to use it. There's many foods that could come in handy for her.

jackrabbit10 · M

sell your house move to another state.do it after dark.

greensnacks · F

What kind of businesses to help with what?

Magicianzini · M

She's a hoarder. This is a mental illness. There are a few options you could run through.

1. You could try to get her in therapy - but hoarder have a very deep, complex level of shame and that can be very, very difficult for even family to get them to do.

2. You could find out if she has any family that could "coax" her into making changes or getting help.

3. You could find an influencer in your local area who specializes in hoarder cleanup. This is a game of dice as not all areas have someone like this.

4. As the above - there are also professional services that deal with cleanup. It's not free as in the above #3 option.

Please understand again that this is a mental illness - generally brought about by a traumatic experience or experiences. It's not something that someone can usually just "get over".

How is her house? Is she hoarding there also, or just the storage units?

Best of luck but please understand what you're dealing with before you remain as committed.

But hey, someone has to help them. That's the only way there is ever change.

Adrift · 61-69, F

I would just stop answering the door.
Every problem of hers will soon become a problem of yours.

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LamontCranston · M

She needs mental help.

LadyBronte · 61-69, F

Some even in her life, has probably traumatized her deeply. She most likely needs professional help to sort out whatever it is and to leg go of things. That sounds like a sad situation. I hope she can find help. Otherwise she's going to go broke over the need to keep things.

SoftIceCream

Some things you think are valuable are worth nothing. Old beds? artists might buy them to chop up. Same with old tables with blemishes, just junk wood. Doesn't matter how old or what was paid for them or how fancy they are.
Electronics age out, nick nacks are $.50
I bet if she gave it all away she would make more money on the savings from paying the storage fees every month. You need to convince her to do this.

Gibbon · 70-79, M

She doesn't have money but can afford storage units? You are going down a dead end street I'm sorry to tell you.

Musicman · 61-69, M

Maybe find out what she needs and pick it up when you go grocery shopping. Sadly some people just can't part with their stuff.

ScarletWitch · 31-35, F

Nah just ignore her. Dont help her. She is an adult and can figure it out on her own. She has more than what she has. Give her an inch and she'll take a mile. Stop helping her.

GoldnJulz · 46-50, F

The best thing you can do for her is to set it on fire 🔥. If she can’t let go then it’s going to take a force of nature or act of god. Hoarding is a mental illness.