I'm confused about this friendship When it is just the two of us, she compliments me , but...

HoeBag · 51-55, F

I think most of us have had a friend like that. Nice when it is just us two but with others around, they act different. Like we are their "second choice".

We can't really say anything because that will just give them something else to laugh at us about when their real friends are around.

Best we can do is stop associating with them.

moonlightlullaby · 46-50, F

That's not a friend, not at all. Respectfully dismiss yourself from her presence as much as possible & decline any gifts. She'll eventually take the hint. Be strong as rise above anyone who treats you this way. You deserve more and there are people out there who'll appreciate your soul shine. ✨

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

That is not a friend and she sounds awful. There might be a little good in her and you see it, but her actions are cruel. That is not how you treat someone you care for and it's okay for you to tell her that.

Lsreading4200 · 31-35, F

Try to give it time and if it's not working try to meet some other people.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

What’s to be confused about? She’s no friend. A friend should be a positive force in your life whether you’re one on one or with others.

ViciDraco · 41-45, M

She's performative to whatever crowd she's with and she thinks she's getting points with them by bullying you. You need to tell her straight up how it makes you feel. And if she can't understand she needs to fix that behavior then you need to cut her out of your life.