Should I tolerate someone just because they are "real" ?

Would you put up with someone even when you're not genuinely interested just because they are a great person ? I find this guy death boring, but he tells me I should allow him in my personal space because he is the kind of person who will be there when I need someone. I've always wanted real friends. What do I do ?

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hartfire · 61-69

No. If you have a gut feeling of discomfort when he comes into your personal space, it's always wiser to trust that inner warning.

The second warning is that he's already pushing against your boundaries by trying to "should" you. Someone who doesn't respect the word "no" is one big red flag.

Trust yourself.