What do you say to women who are concerned about their body image?

I have two friends right now who are very concerned about their weight and looks in general. I see two truths here:
1. They both look great and are worrying about nothing,
2. It doesn't matter anyway because they're my friends and I know that they're beautiful inside and out. That has a LOT of attractive potential.

I've told them the second part. I'm hesitant to add the first part because then it sounds like it's about that. 🤷‍♂ I swear, even the most beautiful women over-worry about their looks.

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greensnacks · F

Just tell them you think they're beautiful, their character is amazing and you love how they X insert a specific there. Idk, that sounds much more sincere rather than potential thing, that's icky for me.

And ofc none of it matters at the end of the day, because it should come from them, not male validation. But it's nice to hear compliments, especially from loved ones or friends. It could help them get there.

SinlessOnslaught · M

@greensnacks Oh should I not say that? I wonder if it's an icky thing to say lol.

Yes, it really should come from them. I saw something today that disturbed me because it was pretty obviously teaching young girls that they should use their attraction to get things. We need to stop this. Every human is just as important as the last.

KarenDuponteDurose · 51-55, F

@SinlessOnslaught It's not an 'ickie' thing it's just something that doesn't match up to what their own perceptions are of themselves.

greensnacks · F

@SinlessOnslaught idk I said for me. But "potential" sounds a bit, idk like you're ugly now, you have the potential to become beautiful. They're enough now, as you said. We all are.
It's my opinion.

SinlessOnslaught · M

@greensnacks I see