Do you find as you get older you have less real friendships?
This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »
robertsnj · 56-60, M
MoMM, I think I am about the same. It kept me from voting in your poll. You ask good questions on here for the record.
I had a spike of friends in college because of being in a consolidated environment but it is so fleeting, in and out in a few years and many of them transfered flunked out or graduated during my time in college.
I think right after COVID from isolating I dipped in interactions for about 2 years.
On the flip side I have been a remote worker for about 20 years and that lets me be more social when contrasted to somebody that has an office commute.
My friendships changed, or evolved a lot. I have little in common with my high school friends today and am stuck on what to speak to them about.
By contrastI make friendships base more on common hobbies which makes for a stronger bond, or in your words real frindship pretty quickly.
I do a good job of not being chumy with co-workers which feels, more often than not, like a bad idea.
I think a lot of people who have trouble making friends, even on here, have 2 things that could help them right away
1) be more curious about others---I think a lot of us, collectively speaking are too self focused and not enough interested in others to make descent friendships and
2) for the self conscious folks, they could realize in terms of friendships nobody what you look like, how you dress and such---but they do care about compassionate you are and how good you are at interacting with others.
I had a spike of friends in college because of being in a consolidated environment but it is so fleeting, in and out in a few years and many of them transfered flunked out or graduated during my time in college.
I think right after COVID from isolating I dipped in interactions for about 2 years.
On the flip side I have been a remote worker for about 20 years and that lets me be more social when contrasted to somebody that has an office commute.
My friendships changed, or evolved a lot. I have little in common with my high school friends today and am stuck on what to speak to them about.
By contrastI make friendships base more on common hobbies which makes for a stronger bond, or in your words real frindship pretty quickly.
I do a good job of not being chumy with co-workers which feels, more often than not, like a bad idea.
I think a lot of people who have trouble making friends, even on here, have 2 things that could help them right away
1) be more curious about others---I think a lot of us, collectively speaking are too self focused and not enough interested in others to make descent friendships and
2) for the self conscious folks, they could realize in terms of friendships nobody what you look like, how you dress and such---but they do care about compassionate you are and how good you are at interacting with others.