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Do you find as you get older you have less real friendships?

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BlueVeins · 22-25 Best Comment
No. As I get older, I have more skills, more money, and more emotional intelligence. I kinda think that if you have less friends as you age, you're either doing something very wrong in your life or are subject to difficult circumstances that are specific to you.
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@BlueVeins hmm interesting. I think the second part of your comment speaks to me
@BlueVeins Probably true in your 20's. Might not still be true in your 60's.
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robertsnj · 56-60, M
MoMM, I think I am about the same. It kept me from voting in your poll. You ask good questions on here for the record.

I had a spike of friends in college because of being in a consolidated environment but it is so fleeting, in and out in a few years and many of them transfered flunked out or graduated during my time in college.

I think right after COVID from isolating I dipped in interactions for about 2 years.

On the flip side I have been a remote worker for about 20 years and that lets me be more social when contrasted to somebody that has an office commute.

My friendships changed, or evolved a lot. I have little in common with my high school friends today and am stuck on what to speak to them about.

By contrastI make friendships base more on common hobbies which makes for a stronger bond, or in your words real frindship pretty quickly.

I do a good job of not being chumy with co-workers which feels, more often than not, like a bad idea.

I think a lot of people who have trouble making friends, even on here, have 2 things that could help them right away

1) be more curious about others---I think a lot of us, collectively speaking are too self focused and not enough interested in others to make descent friendships and

2) for the self conscious folks, they could realize in terms of friendships nobody what you look like, how you dress and such---but they do care about compassionate you are and how good you are at interacting with others.
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@robertsnj thanks man. I appreciate your insight!
fun4us2b · M
If anything, the friends I still have from years ago are even closer now. So yes, less but better.
fun4us2b · M
@Moneyonmymind don't give up, or let that prevent you from letting new friends in...
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@fun4us2b it goes deeper than that as I have a hard time trusting people.
fun4us2b · M
@Moneyonmymind It takes practice...but if they can trust you you'll see that it becomes easier...
The most authentic connections have withstood the test of time. The rest fell away.

The years only made us stronger; closer than friends - more like brothers.
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@SethGreene531 that’s 🔥
itsok · 31-35, F
I feel like it’s the opposite for me
BobbyMoeven · 51-55, M
@itsok

Same
Magenta · F
I just find that I don't care much and am more of a loner.
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@Magenta 🥹 not much love for us loners!
Funny you should ask. Just yesterday I ordered the following signs to put on my doors.
Magenta · F
@SmileOnYourBrother Haha! Perfect!
@SmileOnYourBrother I really did order them. Some knucklehead was beating on my door to sign a petition so he could run for mayor 🤦🏻‍♂. I don't like to be impolite or ill-mannered, so with the signs I won't feel morally compelled to answer the door.
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@SmileOnYourBrother please go away 😆🤣. That’s my facial expression half the time
YoMomma ·
Idk i was mostly a bookworm who stayed home..
YoMomma ·
@Moneyonmymind i'm trying..
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@YoMomma I bet you don’t even have to try
YoMomma ·
@Moneyonmymind lol thanks 😊
Reject · 26-30, M
There's no time for friendships once you're older.
Reject · 26-30, M
@YoMomma Imagine a job that lets you hang out with friends? Or hours that let you have time outside of work? Huh. Sure.
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@Reject if you really think that way you have poor time management skills. 😬
Reject · 26-30, M
@Moneyonmymind I work 12 hour night shifts 4 days of the week. The other three I’m asleep during the hours normal people are awake. So I spend my nights working on another business. My time management is fine, thanks.
MarineBob · 56-60, M
It's called being older and wiser
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@MarineBob that has nothing to do with the question.
MarineBob · 56-60, M
@Moneyonmymind of course it does as I don't trust anyone anymore
Kiesel · 56-60, M
Yes. Key word being real
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
@Kiesel seems like you’re the only one that caught that key word REAL
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
People drift away and get married, make money, etc. There's simply less time for it.
Reject · 26-30, M
@uncalled4 Less time, or if you’re someone like me. Practically none. I do think back to when I was a kid though with nothing but time. I had a lot of friends then.

 
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