Advice again about roommates
I'm in a quandary about how to handle this situation. I have 2 roommates 57M and 85F. The female has lived with me off and on for a couple of years.
So the new 57M moved in a couple of months ago and everything was fine at first but I have noticed that the 85F has started drinking a lot more and really becoming a lush and has started falling a lot, and trying to instigate problems between me and 57M. She's always been like a Mom to me and she loves to know every detail of my life and she gossips and talks negatively about everyone. Every time I mention talking to friends, or if there's a guy I'm interested in, she starts saying negative things about them.
So a couple of days ago , 57M came and told me that she was talking really bad about me to him and he said she does it every night. And then she comes up me and tries to talk bad about him to me. He's a really nice guy and pays his rent on time and has helped out around the house, etc. I think what the problem is is that she's jealous and doesn't want me to have any friends but her. So she takes strong antidepressants and anti anxiety med and has been drinking heavily on top of that, all day long. And she falls and talks bad about everyone.
So I saw her this morning, which was the first time I had seen her since I found out she was talking shit about me behind my back. Normally she wants to know every detail of my life and I see now that it's because she gossips about me to her daughter and family. So I was polite but said nothing new going on in my life, because I see now that I can't trust her.
So while ago I had an electrical issue in my house- lights flickering, sound of electrical current 57M heard. So I called and filed a claim with my supplemental insurance company. 57M was giving details about the current noise he heard and she walked up to him and said that I didn't need his input!! It was very rude and I told her how rude she was and she went to him and apologized. Earlier she was on the couch and when she tried to get up, she fell and broke some stuff. She was apparently very drunk.,
She came to me and said "YOU are the owner of this house and I don't want 57M to take that away from you!"
Wtf????
She's a drunk sloppy lush who is starting problems. She really needs to be in a rehab. She has been in a nursing home before and told her daughter she was abused and would rather rent rooms from people.
I'm not sure if it's my place or not to text her daughter who is out of town on a honeymoon because she recently got married.
Should I tell her daughter that her Mom is drinking a LOT and causing problems with me and the other new roommate and that she keeps falling and wobbling all over the house and I am very concerned about her and worried about coming home and finding her dead? Other than that, she's a good roommate who pays her share of bills on time. I own the house btw. I think her concern is that if I date someone or have other friends, I will kick her out. Her comment tonight about her telling me not to let 57M "take my home away because I am the owner " really makes me think that.
When she fell tonight, both me at57M dragged her back up on the couch and cleaned up her mess and broken stuff.
Not sure what to do. Should I go behind her back and call her daughter and tell her how much she's drinking?
So the new 57M moved in a couple of months ago and everything was fine at first but I have noticed that the 85F has started drinking a lot more and really becoming a lush and has started falling a lot, and trying to instigate problems between me and 57M. She's always been like a Mom to me and she loves to know every detail of my life and she gossips and talks negatively about everyone. Every time I mention talking to friends, or if there's a guy I'm interested in, she starts saying negative things about them.
So a couple of days ago , 57M came and told me that she was talking really bad about me to him and he said she does it every night. And then she comes up me and tries to talk bad about him to me. He's a really nice guy and pays his rent on time and has helped out around the house, etc. I think what the problem is is that she's jealous and doesn't want me to have any friends but her. So she takes strong antidepressants and anti anxiety med and has been drinking heavily on top of that, all day long. And she falls and talks bad about everyone.
So I saw her this morning, which was the first time I had seen her since I found out she was talking shit about me behind my back. Normally she wants to know every detail of my life and I see now that it's because she gossips about me to her daughter and family. So I was polite but said nothing new going on in my life, because I see now that I can't trust her.
So while ago I had an electrical issue in my house- lights flickering, sound of electrical current 57M heard. So I called and filed a claim with my supplemental insurance company. 57M was giving details about the current noise he heard and she walked up to him and said that I didn't need his input!! It was very rude and I told her how rude she was and she went to him and apologized. Earlier she was on the couch and when she tried to get up, she fell and broke some stuff. She was apparently very drunk.,
She came to me and said "YOU are the owner of this house and I don't want 57M to take that away from you!"
Wtf????
She's a drunk sloppy lush who is starting problems. She really needs to be in a rehab. She has been in a nursing home before and told her daughter she was abused and would rather rent rooms from people.
I'm not sure if it's my place or not to text her daughter who is out of town on a honeymoon because she recently got married.
Should I tell her daughter that her Mom is drinking a LOT and causing problems with me and the other new roommate and that she keeps falling and wobbling all over the house and I am very concerned about her and worried about coming home and finding her dead? Other than that, she's a good roommate who pays her share of bills on time. I own the house btw. I think her concern is that if I date someone or have other friends, I will kick her out. Her comment tonight about her telling me not to let 57M "take my home away because I am the owner " really makes me think that.
When she fell tonight, both me at57M dragged her back up on the couch and cleaned up her mess and broken stuff.
Not sure what to do. Should I go behind her back and call her daughter and tell her how much she's drinking?
