How do i deal with a change of personality over the years, and how to bond with that type of person you where once much closer to?
So we're in a friend group of six girls for 8 yrs now.
One of our friends had a change of personality in a way none expected.
she became quieter and more distant from us and also became more personal. For example, i would ask her a simple question of "what did you do today" and her response would be like; it's personal life/you don't have to know even if you ask/ not just because we're friends doesn't mean you need to know everything. etc.
Her argument is that some people may hardly have conversations with someone yet they trust one another, yet others have conversations and talk a lot but with no trust. It's her reason to not wanting to have normal conversation with us.
I feel like I can't bond with her even though i tried several times too.
Some of her behaviors saddens me because this isn't how i remember our friendship with her was in the past.
Recently whenever we would meet up as a friend group, she alone would bring along with her some of her sisters, if not all, not only that but she would have conversations with her sister mostly or just look at her phone.
I swear to God i tried having conversation and bonding with her but like she would just give short answers or ignore.
Don't get me wrong I don't dislike her sisters, but if you have a relationship with your friends for so many years, wouldn't you want to spend personal time with just your friends?
I dislike talking behind anyone back and for this matter two of the girls came to me and talk to me about this situation and i had to agree. One was rather vague but the other was more detailed with the matter.
I don't know what to do.
Recently there have been moments where i feel like kicking her out of the group but at the same time i feel that my judgement is too harsh.
I tried talking to her once about what's bothering me about her and she became defensive. I would then shut up because I don't want any drama.
Ps. This isn't how she was in the past, she changed a lot and sometimes i feel like shes doesn't want us anymore.
One of our friends had a change of personality in a way none expected.
she became quieter and more distant from us and also became more personal. For example, i would ask her a simple question of "what did you do today" and her response would be like; it's personal life/you don't have to know even if you ask/ not just because we're friends doesn't mean you need to know everything. etc.
Her argument is that some people may hardly have conversations with someone yet they trust one another, yet others have conversations and talk a lot but with no trust. It's her reason to not wanting to have normal conversation with us.
I feel like I can't bond with her even though i tried several times too.
Some of her behaviors saddens me because this isn't how i remember our friendship with her was in the past.
Recently whenever we would meet up as a friend group, she alone would bring along with her some of her sisters, if not all, not only that but she would have conversations with her sister mostly or just look at her phone.
I swear to God i tried having conversation and bonding with her but like she would just give short answers or ignore.
Don't get me wrong I don't dislike her sisters, but if you have a relationship with your friends for so many years, wouldn't you want to spend personal time with just your friends?
I dislike talking behind anyone back and for this matter two of the girls came to me and talk to me about this situation and i had to agree. One was rather vague but the other was more detailed with the matter.
I don't know what to do.
Recently there have been moments where i feel like kicking her out of the group but at the same time i feel that my judgement is too harsh.
I tried talking to her once about what's bothering me about her and she became defensive. I would then shut up because I don't want any drama.
Ps. This isn't how she was in the past, she changed a lot and sometimes i feel like shes doesn't want us anymore.
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