Do your friends stop communicating with you when they're going through something?

I've noticed that I'm quite open, it's not to brag about my woes but because I feel sometimes keeping lines open distracts me from my pain.

But actually I'm learning to accept that a lot of my friends aren't like that. They will discuss issues with a partner or family members and shut me and others out until it's dealt with.

Feels kind of rubbish tbh. 🙁

Top | New | Old

greensnacks · F

I can't share everything with friends as I feel I'm trauma dumping and I don't want that. I am chronically feeling guilty even when I share just a bit of pain that I'm going through and regret it after. It's also possible they don't feel you close enough to actually share problems with you.

MayorOfCrushtown · M

sometimes people just hold it in. thats their way of dealing with it. they arent comfortable with sharing their life, its how some people cope.

FreestyleArt · 36-40, M

I'm the same way. I rather spend more time outside of the internet.

SethGreene531 · M

Rarely do they open up.

I've come to understand it's how they've survived their grief these years - which has been plenty.
Family is their first go-to, understandably. It's through relatives, instead, I learn of crisis.

Likewise, I don't often discuss my troubles.
I guess it's an unhealthy coping mechanism we've adopted.

4meAndyou · F

My brother is like that. Sometimes, after the fact, he will send me a one line email telling me that he has some sort of health condition, but then he goes 6 months without writing, and to find out how he is doing is like pulling teeth.

NerdyPotato · M

For me it's more the opposite: they only find me when something is troubling them and shut me out when they feel better.

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

Yes happened to me alot.

This message was deleted by its author.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@SW-User I hear you.

Musicman · 61-69, M

Oh no! If they are going through something they definitely want support. Now when I am going through something only one of them has been there for me. The others either change the subject to them or avoid me like the plague.

Add a comment...