My best friend from high school made a comment that I didn’t like & I don’t know how to approach it, because honestly I think if I do I may have to
End a 22 year friendship
During my baby shower she made a comment to my husband and my friends that if she had “gone out with my husband this whole thing (the baby shower) would be for her”
My husband laughed and said “you still think I was interested in you, but I wasn’t, you’re not my type, not then, not now, and not tomorrow. You and my wife are complete opposites, if you had tried to go out with me I would have embarrassed you”
And she laughed and my friends laughed and she said “yeah ok”
And then she turns to our friends (not her friends btw she just met these people this day) and said “did Kay never tell you guys she tried to hook me up with her husband before she started dating him?”
To which I responded “you’re such a hoe you think every introduction made to you if for a hook up. If you remember, I was dating someone at the time, we don’t have friends in the same circle and I was introducing you to MY new friend who was giving me a hand up through all the problems I was facing at home and during my pregnancy and abusive relationship with my ex, it wasn’t an introduction to date him, you’re not his type, he didn’t even ask you out or ask for your number”
I don’t remember where the conversation went from there but my sons Godmother was not happy or impressed with the exchange.
We’ve moved on from there but that wasn’t the first time she made that remark. I’m starting to think if she does it again I’m going to say something in front of everyone.
We’re completely different and that’s ok, but I’m starting to feel like she’s envious of my life. I have a stable marriage 4 beautiful kids, we have built a beautiful life, my husband and I built a small business that gives us financial stability, we travel to explore our home country of Mexico 3-4x a year before pandemic and as we have 2 toddlers post pandemic (and 2 teens) we slowed down on the trips to 1-2x per year until they are able to travel better.
We are celebrated members of our small community in sponsoring 2 youth sports programs so we’re always on the go and invited to small family oriented social events for the leagues.
Where as she’s coming out of a failed marriage, has been through 4 serious failed relationships, tragically has been unable to have children which I feel horrible for as that’s her biggest desire that makes me feel terrible all on its own because I tried so hard to have a 3rd and lost multiple babies the last 2 were blatant miracles we didn’t expect to make it to term, heck I didn’t even try to get pregnant. Finally she’s had to bounce around from job to job.
We’re both 36 she has a big heart but she also juggles a lot of men, even during her marriage.
We share some similar traumas with unsupportive mothers and major drama in that aspect. But only that aspect. I want the best for her but she keeps putting herself in positions where she’s falling for the guys who don’t want to love her the way she wants to be loved.
My husband says it’s my friendship and my choice, I see her like a sister &’luckily she hasn’t tried to make a move oh my husband. I’m not even the jealous type like that lol
I think even if she tried my husband would not be interested. Physically and personality wise were both very different.
Sorry I just needed to vent
During my baby shower she made a comment to my husband and my friends that if she had “gone out with my husband this whole thing (the baby shower) would be for her”
My husband laughed and said “you still think I was interested in you, but I wasn’t, you’re not my type, not then, not now, and not tomorrow. You and my wife are complete opposites, if you had tried to go out with me I would have embarrassed you”
And she laughed and my friends laughed and she said “yeah ok”
And then she turns to our friends (not her friends btw she just met these people this day) and said “did Kay never tell you guys she tried to hook me up with her husband before she started dating him?”
To which I responded “you’re such a hoe you think every introduction made to you if for a hook up. If you remember, I was dating someone at the time, we don’t have friends in the same circle and I was introducing you to MY new friend who was giving me a hand up through all the problems I was facing at home and during my pregnancy and abusive relationship with my ex, it wasn’t an introduction to date him, you’re not his type, he didn’t even ask you out or ask for your number”
I don’t remember where the conversation went from there but my sons Godmother was not happy or impressed with the exchange.
We’ve moved on from there but that wasn’t the first time she made that remark. I’m starting to think if she does it again I’m going to say something in front of everyone.
We’re completely different and that’s ok, but I’m starting to feel like she’s envious of my life. I have a stable marriage 4 beautiful kids, we have built a beautiful life, my husband and I built a small business that gives us financial stability, we travel to explore our home country of Mexico 3-4x a year before pandemic and as we have 2 toddlers post pandemic (and 2 teens) we slowed down on the trips to 1-2x per year until they are able to travel better.
We are celebrated members of our small community in sponsoring 2 youth sports programs so we’re always on the go and invited to small family oriented social events for the leagues.
Where as she’s coming out of a failed marriage, has been through 4 serious failed relationships, tragically has been unable to have children which I feel horrible for as that’s her biggest desire that makes me feel terrible all on its own because I tried so hard to have a 3rd and lost multiple babies the last 2 were blatant miracles we didn’t expect to make it to term, heck I didn’t even try to get pregnant. Finally she’s had to bounce around from job to job.
We’re both 36 she has a big heart but she also juggles a lot of men, even during her marriage.
We share some similar traumas with unsupportive mothers and major drama in that aspect. But only that aspect. I want the best for her but she keeps putting herself in positions where she’s falling for the guys who don’t want to love her the way she wants to be loved.
My husband says it’s my friendship and my choice, I see her like a sister &’luckily she hasn’t tried to make a move oh my husband. I’m not even the jealous type like that lol
I think even if she tried my husband would not be interested. Physically and personality wise were both very different.
Sorry I just needed to vent
36-40, F
