I don't understand why people let money ruin a friendship

My brother had the greatest friendship with a guy we know since our childhood from our religion, but the friend once decided to not pay back for a pack of beer and naturally they stopped talking.

Similarly, I had a friend who refused to pay back the agreed upon amount after I let him crash drunk with me and my ex in her bedroom. If he would have come up to me and paid up the like the 10 bucks the day after, I would have had so much respect for the guy. If my friendship aint even worth 10 bucks, then I'mma outtie

If you have the [b]opportunity[/b] to pay money for respect and friendship, then you'd be a fool to not do it! Some people dream of being able to do that on a regular basis.

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HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

My friends and I argue all the time about who's gonna pay because we all want to pay. At this point we don't even know who owes to whom and it doesn't matter either because we're always gonna be paying for each other randomly. I don't get how people don't have the basic decency to offer. And for a small amount of money of course I'd let it slide, but it's nice to know that at least the person you're close with isn't trying to take advantage of you.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@HannibalAteMeOut That's great if it works! I like keeping track of these things and be fair in every situation, since money is a huge deal when it comes to retaining friendships. You might feel great about it, but you never know how other people feel about it. They might not give any indication about having an issue with something, but someday when you're fighting they might bring it up and it will escalate the issue out of proportion. And they might not even be remembering things correctly, so their silence just makes it worse.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@MartinTheFirst that's true and often when money comes in, all other values go out quickly. So you're right to do that in your situation. For me it's an unspoken rule that you should always feel the obligation to pay back, in whatever way. Like if you paid for my beer then I will pay for your sandwich.

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

@HannibalAteMeOut this is the way.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@basilfawlty89 honestly my family has always let things like that slide just to keep good relations with everyone (which isn't even possible at the end of the day). Not just money, but any kind of help that they have seen ungrateful behaviour towards them afterwards. But yeah there's a saying that if you're stingy with money, you're also stingy with feelings.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@HannibalAteMeOut you're a beautiful person

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

@MartinTheFirst why so sweet, I'll get fat