Not the favorite friend :((

I am everyone's friend but never the "best" friend. I'm not anyone's choice, I'm not anyone's favorite. like I'm not that friend that they would always find or miss, for example "where is lily?" or "let's wait for lily" or "don't forget to join lily" maybe it's just my thoughts, maybe I'm just overthinking, maybe they do talk to me or miss me whenever I'm not in there, but the problem is I never felt it. I never felt that I was needed in the group. I'm just there. Everyone has their own main bestfriend in the group while I don't have. I'm just part in the group. Maybe I'm too boring, not that kind of friend that they would miss to jam with. I really hate this feeling.

What's new? It's a kind of platitude situation for me. Always been the option but never been their choice.
Yes, we exist.

and I'm sorry for my English, I'm still not good with it.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

It could be you're the friend who gives support but doesn't ask for anything.

Such people are key in our lives, but we don't notice we're breathing oxygen, either. We don't say to a glass of water, "Thank you. You are the reason I'm alive."

They may have to wait for lily, but you're already there, right?

elafina · 36-40, F

@Mamapolo2016 thank you for this, beautiful perspective 😊

Hanniico · 18-21, F

@Mamapolo2016 Thank uuu so much for thiss <333

elafina · 36-40, F

I think of two things. One is, pay attention to yourself. More. And more and more and more. The more attention you give to you, the more the attention net grows around you. Two, move from these circles...

Hanniico · 18-21, F

@elafina mhm, I'm still in the process of that, I'm still in the process of loving myself, Appreciating myself. To be honest it's hard, is that normal?

elafina · 36-40, F

@Hanniico yes it takes time...but you'll get there... I was there but then I slipped again. I'll get back again 🍵 let's have a tea and relax. Things happen.

Budwick · 70-79, M

Hi, you come across as kind of needy.
Maybe that is what your 'friends' are avoiding.

Hanniico · 18-21, F

@Budwick I never asked anything to them tho, I'm usually the quiet one in the group. I never complained or anything.

Budwick · 70-79, M

@Hanniico [quote]I never complained or anything.
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Melia - just trying to help.
Re-read your post. It's nothing but complaints.

Find things to help you work on your self confidence.
You really do not need affirmation from others.

Hanniico · 18-21, F

@Budwick Alright! Will keep that in mind, Thank you so much

SarithBorn · 18-21, M

If you're gone for long periods of time do they notice you're missing? 🤔

Hanniico · 18-21, F

@SarithBorn I'm curious about that, I never been gone for long period of time.

SarithBorn · 18-21, M

@Hanniico It could be just your imagination but its hard to know that for sure. its why i asked about being away for a long period of time if your absence would be noticed, 😇

Spoiledbrat · F

Maybe you're not connecting with anyone on a deeper level.

TeirdalinFirefall · 31-35, M

Better than having no friends at least.

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