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I don’t know what to do

I rent out my 2 spare bedrooms in my home, ever since my husband died a few years ago. Month to month rent. It’s how I pay a lot of my bills, and if they don’t pay rent, they have to leave.
So one of my renters now is a super sweet girl with no car. She’s been renting a room from me for several months, saving up to get a car.
Well last week, her boyfriend dumped her, and then the next day she lost her job. With no car to go look for another job.
A couple of days later, some guy she knows offered to buy her a used car in exchange for her to move in with him and pay off the car and in exchange, she has to take care of his disabled cousin who lives with him.
So she told me she’s moving out on the first. So I have been desperately posting ads to rent her room out on the 1st when I have to pay my mortgage and bills. Without her rent money, I am seriously in trouble.
On top of that, my washing machine broke down and I had to open a new credit card and get a new washer and something is wrong with my cold water valve and I have to pay a huge amount of money to a plumber before the new washer can be installed.
So my money situation is pretty desperate right now with her moving out, new washer to pay off, and paying for a plumber in addition to all my regular bills.
In the meantime, a guy answered my ad today and wants the room and he’ wants to pay $50 extra plus do the plumbing work and anything else that needs fixing. I told him he could move in on the first . So I get home and my current roommate is all upset because the guy who she was moving in with told her that he wanted $700 down for the car he bought for her that she was paying off by taking car of his disabled cousin.
She said that wasn’t the agreement and he immediately fired her and told her to never come back to his house. She had already given him $300 towards the car and moved a lot of her stuff in already.
So now she has no boyfriend, no car, no job, and the asshole took her $300 so she has nowhere to go . She is expecting to stay here at my house until she gets on her feet.
I’m not a horrible person, but I have bills to pay on the first, and a potential renter that wants the room and wants to pay extra and fix my plumbing problem.
I told her that I have to have rent money on the 1st but I would never kick her out with no money and nowhere to go, so I told her she is more than welcome to sleep on the couch for free until she finds a job, car, and place to live. Her rent is paid up till the first so she has the room till then.
I feel horrible about the whole situation, but I have to get my own mortgage paid so I can keep my home and pay my bills at the beginning of the month.
What would you do in my situation?
MarineBob · 56-60, M
She made the choice .you did right
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
You're doing better by the girl than a lot of people would do, letting her stay there for free. Yes, you have to take the new renter. You have to take care of your needs first and foremost. But it's incredibly generous of you to help out your former renter. Here's hoping that she gets on her feet soon and remembers your generosity when she can pay you back.
Mardrae · F
@DunningKruger thank you so much. She doesn’t seem to like the idea of sleeping on the couch for free though, but that’s all I can offer.
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@Mardrae All you can do is all you can do. She's in a hard spot and should be grateful for whatever help you're able to give.
ronisme1 · 61-69, M
Same as you
NewRaven · 51-55, F
I think you’re doing the right thing. She’s lucky to have a couch and a roof instead of a cardboard box.
That's what I would do.
carpediem · 61-69, M
You're making the right choices. She's not. But you can only go so far.
ButterRobot · 51-55, M
I think you're a decent human being and you've made the right calls. There is no point in you both being on the street and you've shown a duty of care. Kudos.
Have her work ot off as a maid for you until she vets a job.
Mardrae · F
She’s actually been doing a lot of work around the house. She’s found a place she’s moving into in a few days, and I already have her room rented out and she’s been sleeping on the couch and cleaning a lot. @TallMtnMedic
@Mardrae thank goodness it worked out. :)
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Same as you did. Life is very hard. If you cannot pay then you cannot eat.
You don't seem to have the heart to be a landlord because it is hard to stay profitable with a bleeding heart. Nothing more you can do.
Mardrae · F
Actually I have been a “landlord “ for 6 years now, including doing Airbnb from my home, and have unfortunately had to kick out several people who stopped paying rent. I’m a good person and know that life sucks and people get down on their luck, but I still have to pay my bills but having a heart doesn’t mean I am a lousy landlord.@REMsleep
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@Mardrae Ok I never said that you were a bad landlord. I said its hard to care about the welfare of people so much and be a landlord.
My mom owns a second house but she only lets her brother stay there because she doesn't have the heart to deal with people's hardships. She may be rethinking this due to needing money.
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Mardrae · F
Exactly @RogueLoner

 
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