Sometimes I feel like I am an asshole.

Well, I think people are right, and nothing good comes from friends with benefits, and someone is eventually hurt. Apparently, she wants something more than that, and I cannot be in a relationship right now. She knows that, but I guess it's not that easy for either of us to be normal friends at this point.

A while ago, she said we have to be normal friends, and I agreed since I am starting to feel bad and guilty because of how she feels and what she wants from us. She came to my place some days ago to watch a movie together, but the next thing I knew, we were in bed. I don't even remember how it happened.

It's becoming like a cycle. There is some distance between us for some time, but we end up being FWB again after a while. I want it to stop. But I think the only way is we stop being friends, and it's not that easy.

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Miram · 31-35, F

If there will be goodbye, make it quick and as soon as possible.

Time is precious, same for love.

LookingForTheSummer · 31-35, M

@Miram A couple of months ago, we stopped talking for a few weeks, but she started texting me again. This cycle is not good for either of us. Especially her, I think.
I feel guilty sometimes, and I wish things were simple and easier.

Miram · 31-35, F

@LookingForTheSummer walk away, it is time and it is the right choice.

You have no obligation staying with someone you aren't ready to commit to. It is for the best to let her go so she can find what makes her happy.

LookingForTheSummer · 31-35, M

@Miram Yes, I know that's the right thing to do, even though it is truly sad.
I just wish she would try too and make it easier.

Miram · 31-35, F

@LookingForTheSummer

Never had FWB just friendships which had toxic cycles.
Eventually they had to be severed.
Being cold will help. Cold and getting something to occupy you when you experience longing.