tbh I had a lot of female friends who were CLOSE even and then they went and had children and it's like ALL Of the work for staying in touch started to fall on me.
I had to actively seek them out to maintain any sort of contact and while I do this periodically for certain parties it can be exhausting and it does lead to reduced contact.
I don't lean on the introverts who mind their own business and never make the effort to reach out to ME as hard.
I mean I LIKE Them A LOT but Having to do all the work can be demotivating. even my friends of the opposite sex who aren't saddled with kids but never check in on me don't get talked to as much. I will just naturally notice it and it will feel like they just want space.
talked to a childfree woman recently who said she didn't want breeders for friends and I was like This is going to be so controversial but I get why.
