Left out and sad

i get that how you're feeling. It was opposite for me with my first two pregnancies. I was the first one out of my friends having babies and they brushed me off because they didn't want to hang out with me with kids in tow.

I promise you.. becoming a parent does not help you make friends. If anything, it prevents you from having a social life of your own and you get stuck mingling with a bunch of people you have nothing in common with or worse, intensely dislike, but have to tolerate because your kids get along. It’s a miracle if you find even one parent at these events who you actually hit it off with. Your phone calls are constantly interrupted. Babysitters are extremely expensive. Even when you get a babysitter you can only be out for a few hours. Kids get sick. They make you late constantly. When you do have a friend kids frequently interrupt the adult conversation time. Meanwhile, the friend who used to have eventually distance themselves because it’s hard to keep in touch. Either you have kids and they don’t so they can’t relate to your new G rated MomLife or you both have kids and finding time to hang out is extremely challenging.

I love my kid, but nothing about being a mom has resulted in more friends ha ha

Sounds like you need to go to things like book clubs, coffee shops, bookstores, themed bar nights, shows. Really any event or gathering where children aren’t welcome because the environment is either inappropriate or meant to be quiet. 🤣😅🤷🏻‍♀️

I find a lot of people meet others because they have dogs. Most dog owners seem to want to talk about dogs than kids 😉

tbh I had a lot of female friends who were CLOSE even and then they went and had children and it's like ALL Of the work for staying in touch started to fall on me.

I had to actively seek them out to maintain any sort of contact and while I do this periodically for certain parties it can be exhausting and it does lead to reduced contact.

I don't lean on the introverts who mind their own business and never make the effort to reach out to ME as hard.

I mean I LIKE Them A LOT but Having to do all the work can be demotivating. even my friends of the opposite sex who aren't saddled with kids but never check in on me don't get talked to as much. I will just naturally notice it and it will feel like they just want space.

talked to a childfree woman recently who said she didn't want breeders for friends and I was like This is going to be so controversial but I get why.

Just a thought. Have you considered volunteering at a place that helps kids? Maybe you would get to see your friends more often or make new ones that are in a similar situation as you.
FWIW, my sister and her husband went through the same thing, so you are not alone in this.
I hope this helps you.

It's easy to feel like an outcast from anything and everything we use to do. It's just time to get discovering more and different opportunities for you.

Its so much pleasant not to be amidst crowd.
Treasure the moments with the pet.