My best friend's wife passed away today.
I really suck at being there during such emotional times. Please help. I want him to feel I'm there for him.
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InOtterWords · F
This is so sad.
Almost 2 years ago my friend died, leaving behind 2 kids.
The husband has little family support because of location but I live very close to them.
He tends to do ok with food, he likes to cook, but he does need help with childcare. I do a lot of that. The kids know they have a safe place with me....and he knows that he can go fir a run, or even veg out on the sofa after work for an hour.
The husband, now does see me as a friend, I realised if I sent him a text asking him how he was he would not reply, but if I sent jokes or memes or actually texted about something we would have a conversation.
Also he would refuse offers of coffee,meet ups but if I turned up on his doorstep he would stick the kettle on and would open up.
All of this happened during covid and lockdowns, we became his support bubble and he knows we all are there for his family unit.
In terms of words, there are no right ones. It is the gestures that count. Be present for him and the kids.
Almost 2 years ago my friend died, leaving behind 2 kids.
The husband has little family support because of location but I live very close to them.
He tends to do ok with food, he likes to cook, but he does need help with childcare. I do a lot of that. The kids know they have a safe place with me....and he knows that he can go fir a run, or even veg out on the sofa after work for an hour.
The husband, now does see me as a friend, I realised if I sent him a text asking him how he was he would not reply, but if I sent jokes or memes or actually texted about something we would have a conversation.
Also he would refuse offers of coffee,meet ups but if I turned up on his doorstep he would stick the kettle on and would open up.
All of this happened during covid and lockdowns, we became his support bubble and he knows we all are there for his family unit.
In terms of words, there are no right ones. It is the gestures that count. Be present for him and the kids.