Is it appropriate to pass an ecard through the team to pass our condolences to someone who lost a family member?

I found it weird, like who does this in death!! It is not a happy occasion. Or is this a normal thing?

I also thought, why spread the news, maybe she doesn’t want people to know! When I lost my mother, I didn’t tell anyone because I didn’t want to keep talking about it.

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BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F Pinned Comment

I can’t believe someone signed it with the cross sign. How the phuk do you know the deceased was Christian or religious or whether our colleague is! Exactly why I dislike religion, tends to be presumptuous as if everyone must follow!

DrWatson · 70-79, M

It was always the custom to send paper cards to the family when someone dies.

Maybe that is not something that you are used to in the ME, but if you go to a shop that sells greeting cards, you'll find that along with sections like "Birthday" and "Anniversary", there is a section called "Sympathy" for this purpose.

As for the interactions among the people on your team, I won't try to comment.

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@DrWatson i feel that is different though, it is an individual card sent privately by someone or a family that is close. I found the idea of ecard passed across everyone was a little too much and not genuine. I feel feelings have become so exaggerated and generalized in this age of technology.

DrWatson · 70-79, M

@BittersweetPotato I get what you are saying, but paper cards were sometimes passed around an office too . Of course, some of the written comments might have been just as perfunctory as the eCard comments.

NerdyPotato · M

I've heard about a paper card being passed around to be signed by all colleagues for a variety of occasions, but not an eCard...

Degbeme · 70-79, M

I personally haven`t experienced an ecard being sent. I have contributed on a regular card. An ecard doesn`t seem all that personal to me, kinda cold so to speak.

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@Degbeme Yea i felt exactly the same. Even reading through messages, i felt very impersonal.

MethDozer · M

Sending out an ecard for such a thing seems like one of those things corporate management types would do feeling and wanting to acknowledge it. While being such disconnected and emotionally stunted weirdos they feel this solves some "potential problems" and also not getting in the way of any productivity or cutting into mind numbing meeting dialogue.

" We care, but don't want to waste to much time on caring. So here you go."

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