Distance and thoughts
My BF and I usually spend days together, then a few apart, then together. Sometimes he is at my place, and most of the time I am at his. I am not sure I could call this "dating" since every time, we spend an extended period together, but I think we've also been doing that almost from the very beginning when we started dating. I know I am always sad the day we leave each other. It is funny, because in the beginning, every time we met and spent a few days together, while I enjoyed my time with him, I was still longing to be alone and just can't wait to be at my place, where I know where everything is, feel comfortable, and can do my own thing. But recently, not very though, its been nice to have him around even if his lifestyle is different, it doesn't cause me discomfort. Maybe I also got very comfortable at his place and it stopped feeling like I am on vacation or an airbnb.
This weekend he is at an event, that has to do with work. I feel like I have not seen him in ages but its been only three days.
I really wish we lived closer. So far this is not causing any issues, and he told me that if we ever have any real issues, distance isn't going to be one of them, that's just silly. But I am sure life would have been easier, and we may have seen more of each other, had we lived closer.
When I decided to buy this place, I knew it was further away from him, but it was a bit early to make decisions that big based on him, and he certainly asked me not to, and assured me that this wouldn't matter.
I think it is too early to judge what an obstacle distance would be. He was on a long trip outside Canada, then came back, and I was on vacation which we spent almost entirely together at his place since I didn't need to go to the office not once, then he went on a family trip and only came back recently.
I feel we both haven't experienced yet a long period of time where we have our routine schedules and are living at our places to be able to judge how often we'd see each other and whether it would be challenging at all. To think of it, his place has been always very far from me, whether from my previous downtown condo or my now condo, and if it wasn't for me being able to spend days with him since I work from home (sooo lucky) we'd see way less of each other.
He has such energy, he often surprises me. He works a lot, moves a lot, carry things a lot (he designs and creates all sorts of things, which often means he transports so many big and heavy stuff back and forth from his place to his parents'), drives a lot, and has energy to go here and there and attend events in the middle of all this business. I am a few years younger than him, and I feel exhausted just watching him. I often feel tired for him, and sometimes it is satisfying to see him sleeping and resting, he definitely needs more of that.
That makes me think that driving an extra half an hour or so to reach my new place should not be an issue, and me commuting a train ride to meet him half way is okay. It would be nice to see how it all pans out though when we both have more certainty in our schedules, so that I don't have to speculate.
This weekend he is at an event, that has to do with work. I feel like I have not seen him in ages but its been only three days.
I really wish we lived closer. So far this is not causing any issues, and he told me that if we ever have any real issues, distance isn't going to be one of them, that's just silly. But I am sure life would have been easier, and we may have seen more of each other, had we lived closer.
When I decided to buy this place, I knew it was further away from him, but it was a bit early to make decisions that big based on him, and he certainly asked me not to, and assured me that this wouldn't matter.
I think it is too early to judge what an obstacle distance would be. He was on a long trip outside Canada, then came back, and I was on vacation which we spent almost entirely together at his place since I didn't need to go to the office not once, then he went on a family trip and only came back recently.
I feel we both haven't experienced yet a long period of time where we have our routine schedules and are living at our places to be able to judge how often we'd see each other and whether it would be challenging at all. To think of it, his place has been always very far from me, whether from my previous downtown condo or my now condo, and if it wasn't for me being able to spend days with him since I work from home (sooo lucky) we'd see way less of each other.
He has such energy, he often surprises me. He works a lot, moves a lot, carry things a lot (he designs and creates all sorts of things, which often means he transports so many big and heavy stuff back and forth from his place to his parents'), drives a lot, and has energy to go here and there and attend events in the middle of all this business. I am a few years younger than him, and I feel exhausted just watching him. I often feel tired for him, and sometimes it is satisfying to see him sleeping and resting, he definitely needs more of that.
That makes me think that driving an extra half an hour or so to reach my new place should not be an issue, and me commuting a train ride to meet him half way is okay. It would be nice to see how it all pans out though when we both have more certainty in our schedules, so that I don't have to speculate.
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