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JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
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Would you rather not know what’s at the other side of that risk?
Would you rather not know what’s at the other side of that risk?
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
@CookieCrumbs
I focus too much on the cons rather than the pros. So to avoid the cons entirely, I often remain seated on the sidelines of life.
For example, I have for years resisted the pressure to apply for promotions. Some required leadership skills and personality traits I do not have, and others required math knowledge I lacked. So the easy approach was not to apply.
Yet when I started to see who got hired, I felt stupid for not applying. Then a month ago, my boss called a meeting just with me about a new job, and he urged me to apply. So I did.
I got interviewed. It went well. But I am a little scared about the new situation. Will it be too challenging? Will I have to deal with more people? Will I like my new boss? He was hired mid-pandemic, and we do not know each other well.
And today he asked me to give a talk at a conference next week. Apparently neither he nor the speaker were able to secure funding to attend. I did. So I will be there.
But I have no clue what the talk is about, and know little about the planned speaker. I resisted, because of this, and the short notice, but said that if I have to do it I guess then I would.
Gosh I hated having to resist, since the person asking is the same person considering hiring me for the new job. So now I fear that might be in jeopardy. He eventually backed off and withdrew his request. I am busy on time-sensitive stuff, anyway.
So, now I am a little pissed at my potential employer. Not just for springing this on me, but for putting me in a situation where I had to say no.
A more savvy person might have enthusiastically volunteered. But I have felt a little abused lately, having to delay my work to rescue other people's projects. It is making me cranky. So when I was asked again to do some other person's work, I put my foot down.
Now I am having second thoughts about this new job. Should I withdraw?
Also, he was born in China and is hard to understand. I miss a lot of words. It is not his fault, but why would my office hire a person who cannot speak clearly?
Ugh.
I focus too much on the cons rather than the pros. So to avoid the cons entirely, I often remain seated on the sidelines of life.
For example, I have for years resisted the pressure to apply for promotions. Some required leadership skills and personality traits I do not have, and others required math knowledge I lacked. So the easy approach was not to apply.
Yet when I started to see who got hired, I felt stupid for not applying. Then a month ago, my boss called a meeting just with me about a new job, and he urged me to apply. So I did.
I got interviewed. It went well. But I am a little scared about the new situation. Will it be too challenging? Will I have to deal with more people? Will I like my new boss? He was hired mid-pandemic, and we do not know each other well.
And today he asked me to give a talk at a conference next week. Apparently neither he nor the speaker were able to secure funding to attend. I did. So I will be there.
But I have no clue what the talk is about, and know little about the planned speaker. I resisted, because of this, and the short notice, but said that if I have to do it I guess then I would.
Gosh I hated having to resist, since the person asking is the same person considering hiring me for the new job. So now I fear that might be in jeopardy. He eventually backed off and withdrew his request. I am busy on time-sensitive stuff, anyway.
So, now I am a little pissed at my potential employer. Not just for springing this on me, but for putting me in a situation where I had to say no.
A more savvy person might have enthusiastically volunteered. But I have felt a little abused lately, having to delay my work to rescue other people's projects. It is making me cranky. So when I was asked again to do some other person's work, I put my foot down.
Now I am having second thoughts about this new job. Should I withdraw?
Also, he was born in China and is hard to understand. I miss a lot of words. It is not his fault, but why would my office hire a person who cannot speak clearly?
Ugh.
CookieCrumbs · F
@JoyfulSilence
Let me reply to this properly a little later. I want to share a lot of things with you.
Let me reply to this properly a little later. I want to share a lot of things with you.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M