Am I asking too much ?? Or what am I doing ??

I’ll start with a backstory .. my boyfriend and I never graduated high school . He has a learning disability but knows his way around fixing transmissions and fixing vehicles .. I just . Got pregnant and dropped out and never went back. We have a 7 year old together .. my boyfriend adores our son and my son prefers to hang out with his dad all the time .. I told my boyfriend the other night I don’t want our son to be like us.. and he was like “what’s wrong with that”? .. I told him in a roundabout way that I want our son to graduate and go to college . And we started arguing .. in the end I hurt his feelings I know I did .. because when he chooses to be alone and sit in his truck all night I know it ..he’s the mechanic making twice what I make .. and I’m just a cashier .. but I would like for us both to agree that our son deserves more then what we both are .. idk.. maybe I should just shut up about it ?

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Alfred22

There is really some great advice here.

Being just like parents is how generational wealth is built. Not a bad idea. When you handle cash, as I did in several jobs, beware of germs! Wear gloves when you can. All sorts of disease prevention involves washing your hands AND avoiding toughing your face.

Honesty is a major commercial virtue. Having an honest employee is quite valuable. Be sure you are scrupulously honest. Return any overpayment to the customer immediately and automatically. It could well be a test by your employer AND it is wrong to cheat people! Watch what is selling and when it is time to reorder, help out. Lots of moral and practical virtues involved in Point of Sale work! Teach these to your son and you will be a good parent.

There are similar skills involved, these days especially, in repair work. I really love the mechanics I have had over the years. They are and were honest and told me the truth about whether I really needed any proposed work, did not do work that they discovered I didn't need after all, and they did suggest work that I might wish I had done early! So, the upshot of all this is: Being like Mom or being like Dad would be good things for you son!