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Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
Wow. Tough question to answer honestly.
I can say I bet there are a lot of single moms getting ready to block my ass in a minute.
Also this is strictly my opinion from what I have seen in my life and have decided must be true.
One parent can't do it all.
In order for kids to develop socially and emotionally they need both a feminine and masculine entity in their environment.
Boys marry woman that have the good qualities of their mother.
Mom sets the bar, most often, of what is expected in a mate.
For boys, dad is their template of what to strive to be better than. Not out of spite but rather an immense amount of respect. They want to make dad proud of them.
If their isn't some consistent form of surrogacy in either role there is going to be to much of one influence and therefore causing imbalance.
I had a friend. Close friend, who grew up with literally no regular male influence. He was very feminine. Not gay just feminine. He had a hard go of it with the shop type ruff and tumble guys.
Most situations he was singled out and picked on.
He hunted and fished but just didn't have any masculine traits.
Also, another close friend grew up with no mom at home. This caused way to much male thinking, with two brothers, and he just got a divorce because he was way to alpha with his wife way to often.
Just his tone and the way he would communicate with her like she was one of the boys.
So this is the short version.
I can say I bet there are a lot of single moms getting ready to block my ass in a minute.
Also this is strictly my opinion from what I have seen in my life and have decided must be true.
One parent can't do it all.
In order for kids to develop socially and emotionally they need both a feminine and masculine entity in their environment.
Boys marry woman that have the good qualities of their mother.
Mom sets the bar, most often, of what is expected in a mate.
For boys, dad is their template of what to strive to be better than. Not out of spite but rather an immense amount of respect. They want to make dad proud of them.
If their isn't some consistent form of surrogacy in either role there is going to be to much of one influence and therefore causing imbalance.
I had a friend. Close friend, who grew up with literally no regular male influence. He was very feminine. Not gay just feminine. He had a hard go of it with the shop type ruff and tumble guys.
Most situations he was singled out and picked on.
He hunted and fished but just didn't have any masculine traits.
Also, another close friend grew up with no mom at home. This caused way to much male thinking, with two brothers, and he just got a divorce because he was way to alpha with his wife way to often.
Just his tone and the way he would communicate with her like she was one of the boys.
So this is the short version.