How did pregnancy affect you?

When I found out I was pregnant the first time at 19, I was confused. I was a very bad person back then. I remember being with a friend and seeing a charity poster of a sick child, a very young sick child. I think they were around two years old. I drunkenly said to my friend: “look, why are they bothering...the child is going to die anyway...” I wish I could go back in time and stab myself for saying that. When I had my son in hospital, I was losing my mother to cancer that she had only been diagnosed with a month prior to me giving birth. It was terminal, and the deterioration was very very rapid. It was not slow, there was no hope, it was happening too quickly. My dad had died suddenly during this period. His heart stopped. He was 66, and my mother had only turned 50 in the month I gave birth. I was depressed and midwives reported me for not bonding with my son. They said I was ignoring him and not doing things with him. When I bathed my son for first time, I was worried about him being cold. I kept him close to me and watched him to see if he would be sick in the night. I was still not trusted, no one ever trusted me except my parents and my grandmother.

I had two more children since then.

In my pregnancies, I never had any physical issues! This is fine! I am fit and healthy. I am even more normal mentally when pregnant and when I have a baby. It seems to subdue the bad in me. I had a few drinks in my first pregnancy toward the end, when my mom was dying. It was no more than five, and I felt bad. I didn't get drunk. Both my parents drank too much, and they smoked. They were good people, but they drank every day and it was a lot. In my second and third pregnancies, I did not drink at any point after finding out. I felt so much better about life. I want to have ten children.

Congratulations once again!!! Pregnancies are always tough but I am sure you will get through it. I'm pretty sure you and your significant other will be great parents once the baby is born. One of my closest friends lost friends when she became pregnant with her first child. Unfortunately, these things happen.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope mom and baby are doing well. But like VOOdoo said, you should go and see the Drs. They will be the ones to discuss this with.

It's a pity that pregnant women are made to struggle all alone in this so called modern world, when they are supposed to be amidst others and taken care of.

It's a phase of melancholy that you need to go through but do invite people like mother, sister or friend or in law so you get to switch your mind.

Being in a pool of water can give a great relief for your back.

Congratulations 😃

I’m sorry to hear it’s making you feel a bit poorly, on the plus side, it’s only for a limited time

When she was pregnant? Elated!

When she miscarried?
Cried and was depressed for a longtime!

1st trimester was always hard for me, especially in the morning

Go see the docs.

My pregnancy wasnt ideallic. Just be strong in telling them when it's not right for you. X

🤔 Didn’t have to wear a condom 😁

I didn’t know you were pregnant ! Congratulations !
I had "morning sickness" morning, noon & night. Every smell made me nauseous, my ankles and feet were swollen all the time. I cried constantly, about everything. My son was born healthy, though.
My sister had a much easier time.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I didn’t realize you were pregnant.

I understand this, my last pregnancy I was so sick. I had hypermesis gravidarium and threw up constantly until I had my boy.

I never glowed when I was pregnant. It’s a lot for your body to go through and everything changes so quick.

If you’re finding it really hard please talk to the doctor and especially if you’re having a hard time after babe comes along.

I hope things get better 🩷.

Congratulations 🥳🥳🥳🥳