My best friend is pregnant - why am I sad?!

So mine and my partners best friends told us they’re pregnant. We’re thrilled for them! Although I feel so sad because i would love a family, although I know it isn’t really the right ‘time’ in studying still. And my partner wants to move back towards his home town before we do. He says we have no support here (my parents live close by but are pretty busy, although I know they’d help out if we had a baby) but he doesn’t see that.

How do I cope with these feelings? They feel so overwhelming!

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Sutten · 36-40, F

Just because family lives close doesn't mean they will help or support. In my experience the parents will have no choice but to carry the load either way, if other family members who you thought would help doesn't assist or support you as you thought they would. Things don't always work out the way one thinks or dreams it will. Having a child is a full time job, you have to be financially, mentally, emotionally, physically ready. Both parents will have to make many sacrifices, so both needs to be ready, its a lifelong commitment. It is understandable to feel sad when you see someone else taking that next step and it's something you want badly, it doesn't make you a bad person, you are happy for your friends but it is something you long to have as well. I do hope it works out for you and you are blessed with as many children as you want. All the best! :)