Am I a bad person cause my baby will group up without a father? [I Am Pregnant]

as my due date approaches I am getting more and more emotional and feeling more and more alone. I feel like I have failed by not being able to give my baby a mum AND dad that will love them to the ends of the earth.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

No, you are not. Even if you'd done everything the 'traditional way,' the father might have been lost to an accident, disease, another woman.

You must accept that and look forward to being the best mother you can be. Some of the best fathers are not biological and there may be one in your child's future. Some of the finest children have been raised, and raised well, by single parents.

What your baby needs from you is love and lots of it. Stand tall. You are in great company.

BreathingFreshAir · 18-21, F

thanks so much, that means ALOT right now. @Mamapolo2016

Mamapolo2016 · F

@BreathingFreshAir I mean every word. 🤗🤗

BreathingFreshAir · 18-21, F

@Mamapolo2016 Today I just feel like sobbing because all feels too soon and too scary

Mamapolo2016 · F

@BreathingFreshAir That's hormones to a large degree. That's normal, too.

Go ahead and cry - it won't hurt anything.

BreathingFreshAir · 18-21, F

I feel like when I get the hospital and go in alone all the nurses and midwives will judge me badly@BreathingFreshAir

Mamapolo2016 · F

@BreathingFreshAir Surely you don't think you'll be the first mother without a father to present? This is very common and if they judge you, it's due to a problem they have, not to you.

Like I said, hold your head high. Nobody can fix yesterday, honey. From today on is your project.

BreathingFreshAir · 18-21, F

hug @Mamapolo2016

Mamapolo2016 · F

@BreathingFreshAir Hug back.

BreathingFreshAir · 18-21, F

sorry having a major wobble. like everyone says its probably hormones. and general sense of impending doom @Mamapolo2016

Mamapolo2016 · F

@BreathingFreshAir It's a scary time and it's perfectly sensible. It's like an alarm labeled, "grownup time."

Millions and millions of women have been there and survived. You will too.

BreathingFreshAir · 18-21, F

@Mamapolo2016 yea. I guess ordinarily my mum would be there so it makes me miss her more.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@BreathingFreshAir You have a lot going on. It's okay to be emotional. This is probably why men don't have babies. They might explode. 😀

BreathingFreshAir · 18-21, F

lol. just afraid that its going to be happening real soon and I don't feel ready@Mamapolo2016

Mamapolo2016 · F

@BreathingFreshAir Around the world there are women who aren't ready who are having babies. All a baby NEEDS is already in your body. Anything else can be done later.

Diapers are probably good....