Can parents build up insecurities in their children ?

I feel like if my mom stopped criticizing my social skills. I would be so quiet in fear of saying something bad.
If she stopped saying that I don't take care of my hair, and my clothes and face. I could walk without having the need to hide.
If she stopped making a fool of me in front of people. I wouldn't be so scared of talking to them.

I just want her to stop pointing out all the wrong in me. Because it really makes me want to hide beneath the ground...And maybe see what's good...Once or twice...

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HermannFegelein · 26-30, M

My dad was like this. His insecurities rubbed off onto me during my teen years. His insecure vibes could be felt a mile away. I didn't even know this was happening until I was able to drive and started hanging out with my friends away from him. The more time I spent away from him the more I healed. He had some nerve criticizing my social skills yet he can't maintain healthy relationships with anyone. Apparently I would embarrass him in public. But I realized I was only afraid of being myself when I was around him because he would get angry if I "embarrassed" him. He was really just super insecure so he used me as punching bag and blamed things on me.