Can parents build up insecurities in their children ?

I know how you feel. My mom's obsession with health and exercise makes me afraid to eat around her and if I happen to say I didn't exercise today or just take a short break from it she says, "You're not exercising anymore? What's wrong? Well you know I found out there's a Krav Maga and a Jui Jitsu class down the street, would you like to join there?" Or if she sees me eat junkfood she tisks at me and shakes her head but she always wines at me to buy her popsicles only to complain that she's not losing any weight no matter how much she exercises (she's fat and [i]I'm[/i] small!!). It's why I don't eat around her or talk about fitness with her.

Now, I'll continue to eat healthy and exercise but not for her. For myself. But I wont treat junkfood as the devil, I'll eat it occasionally in moderation and I'll enjoy every bite of it because I bought it with my own money. She has no right to judge me. She can fuck off.

i have the same. and this is why i'm the person i am now. i used to be open and talk a lot now i hardly speak a word. also my voice now also hurts if i want to use my original volume.

you need to find a way to make it stop before its too late or too bad.

My parents did and still do. I love 'em to death but no matter how hard I try, how well I do it's not good enough. What hurts me most is when they compare me to other people.

Makes you feel like a disappointment.

My dad was like this. His insecurities rubbed off onto me during my teen years. His insecure vibes could be felt a mile away. I didn't even know this was happening until I was able to drive and started hanging out with my friends away from him. The more time I spent away from him the more I healed. He had some nerve criticizing my social skills yet he can't maintain healthy relationships with anyone. Apparently I would embarrass him in public. But I realized I was only afraid of being myself when I was around him because he would get angry if I "embarrassed" him. He was really just super insecure so he used me as punching bag and blamed things on me.

It needs to be a little more balanced

I grew up without them. Life was hell.