Is it right to blame your parents/parent for how you turned out?
For example having low self esteem, feeling like your not worthy of love, or good enough.
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Yes you can blame them. But it's not the solution. But blame is pointing fingers and being bitter.
I would say it's fair to point out where something comes from and have fair criticism about something. Another reason you can't really blame your parents too much is because they are, in a way, in the same position you are in.
Your parents had no control where they came from either or what values they inherited. Parent is not synonymous with "all knowing caring perfect person". These are people who can be prone to error just as much as anyone else.
So it's okay to acknowledge and say "so and so came from my home and it hurt me a lot" But if you have enough wisdom to know how the world works and how people are shaped, you can't really blame anybody on that sort of foundation.
Let your parents go after you acknowledge these things and sort yourself out.
I would say it's fair to point out where something comes from and have fair criticism about something. Another reason you can't really blame your parents too much is because they are, in a way, in the same position you are in.
Your parents had no control where they came from either or what values they inherited. Parent is not synonymous with "all knowing caring perfect person". These are people who can be prone to error just as much as anyone else.
So it's okay to acknowledge and say "so and so came from my home and it hurt me a lot" But if you have enough wisdom to know how the world works and how people are shaped, you can't really blame anybody on that sort of foundation.
Let your parents go after you acknowledge these things and sort yourself out.
Gigi1425 · 51-55, F
Maybe blame isn't the right word to use like you said. Pointing out that I turned out this way because of how I was raised would probably be better. I know my mom thought she was doing what was best for us. Thank you for your answer.