Is it right to blame your parents/parent for how you turned out?

To a certain point. We Were raised by them and had to follow certain rules. There must be a base were it all started.

We are on the same wave length about this stuff. We should talk privately. I did a lot of emotional cleansing this past Feb finally getting rid of the baggage my mother saddled m with and getting rid of all this junk was liberating!

Maybe, but it's a waste of time. It's still your life and you can get help improving it. You're not obliged to accept that definition of who you are.

Yes you can blame them. But it's not the solution. But blame is pointing fingers and being bitter.

I would say it's fair to point out where something comes from and have fair criticism about something. Another reason you can't really blame your parents too much is because they are, in a way, in the same position you are in.

Your parents had no control where they came from either or what values they inherited. Parent is not synonymous with "all knowing caring perfect person". These are people who can be prone to error just as much as anyone else.

So it's okay to acknowledge and say "so and so came from my home and it hurt me a lot" But if you have enough wisdom to know how the world works and how people are shaped, you can't really blame anybody on that sort of foundation.

Let your parents go after you acknowledge these things and sort yourself out.

I'm not going to answer yes or no because I think that nature and nurture both have a major role in how someone turns out. For example, if someone grows up and has drug addicts for parents, they could either model their parents' behavior and also become a drug addict or they could be repulsed by the same behavior and vow to be completely different. So many things come into play here. Abuse, being spoiled, etc. So many things. All psychological.

Everyone is different and some can't rise above abuse physical or emotional and those people do have a right to blame the people who made them that way. In a perfect world, we all rise above the negative and prove our abusers wrong. When mental health prevents that, it is not the fault of the abused but those who abused them. So in reality, it depends on the individual if they can do better or not.

I've always had low self esteem thanks to my family...you can always blame them but better keep it to yourself

There comes a time in life when we realize that we don't have to believe what others think is true. We can rise above it, or let it imprison us forever.