Big questions already

So last night my oldest whose 10 asked me and his dad a question I did not expect this young. Now remember I got pregnant at just 15 with him and he knows that. He also knows his dad was just 16. He asked us what would happen if he became a teen dad. I asked more about it finds out the older brother of one his close friends just found out hes about to be a dad. I wasn't sure what to tell him.

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Sequoia51 · 70-79, M

What does your 10 year old son know about Sex and his responsibilities and his role in Sexual Intercourse outside of marriage?

Mountainlady16 · 22-25, F

@Sequoia51 well hes in 5th grade and take 6th grade science he knows where babies come from

Sequoia51 · 70-79, M

@Mountainlady16 What do you wish you had known before?

Mountainlady16 · 22-25, F

@Sequoia51 alot of ppl assume girls that got pregnant at a young age didnt know about sex or had no sex ed. i had im proof (more than once he and his younger brother) that 2 types of bc still can fail

Sequoia51 · 70-79, M

@Mountainlady16 The only birth control method which Can Not Fail is Abstinence.

Mountainlady16 · 22-25, F

@Sequoia51 so true but you know things happen and bc fails.

froggtongue · M

@Sequoia51 Abstinence in this context doesn't mean no sex. It means you know about sex and promise yourself or someone that you will try not to have sex. Like you can abstain from sweets. But you might fail in your promise and eat anyway.

Maybe what's best is both. It's learning about what you need to so you don't get bad things happening but at the same time doing your best not to engage in sex. That's my take on it.

Sequoia51 · 70-79, M

@froggtongue I disagree. Abstinence is the practice of self-enforced restraint from indulging in bodily activities that are widely experienced as giving pleasure. Most frequently, the term refers to sexual abstinence, but it can also mean abstinence from alcohol, drugs, food, or other comforts.

froggtongue · M

@Sequoia51 I need to stop quick reactions. You're more right. And it also doesn't mean you need to know about sex to say you're not going to have any. Though I still think the best thing is both knowledge and to try to find other outlets.