I've been single for a while but it doesn't feel like it

Probably because we still live together for now. It's complicated. I still don't want us to separate but there's nothing I can do about it anymore. She still gets mad at me for any little thing. I still struggle to fix the issues because my attempts make everything worse. Regardless if I'm right, wrong, or neutral.

We still sleep together & I'm still confused on the sexual aspect. She treats me like she doesn't wanna be with me but then she says stuff like "you don't wanna kiss me" or "you don't smack my ass anymore" & I'm just thinking "well I didn't know I was supposed to still 🤷" it's not like I just stopped because I don't like it anymore.

But it's tough because lately I'm thinking like... I kinda just feel used in a way. Like I'm not good enough to be with but I'm good enough to mess with if you're in the mood? It kinda hurts but I want to hold on still 😔 I know I should draw a line & say I can't continue the relationship like this if we're not even gonna be together but at the same time I'm afraid of doing that because I don't wanna lose it completely. & I know that all sounds stupid but she's the mother of my child & all I want is to be a family & see my kid every day. Nobody ever talks about this stuff from a dad's perspective though. We're supposed to just take the blame, take the BS, & chin tf up like everything's okay

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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

Co-parenting is not easy. My son's dad moved back in with me after being divorced for 8 years. We have zero interest in each other and it's still difficult. I wanted my son to have his dad around, but his dad makes everything so much harder.

This is why I'll never understand people getting married, because we change. Things have to change sometimes.

Have you talked to her about not having sex anymore? Have you talked about setting up some boundaries that won't disrupt things Naya?

Perhaps having separate rooms will help?

I don't know my friend. I don't want to live with my ex anymore and I think we were better off in separate homes so I have to be responsible for him now too. My son's father is literally like having another child to look after.

You guys gotta figure out how it works for you or find separate living situations. It's hard. It was gonna be hard no matter what.

Sometimes what we think is best for our kids isn't really the best.

You're making a lot of sacrifice right now and that's draining.