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Someone saw Naya & told me "aww I love how her Mama did her hair"

& I was just thinking "but I did her hair. She hasn't seen her Mama today so she had nothing to do with it" 😅 But I didn't say anything. I think people just tend to assume only the Mama's do all that kind of stuff 🤷

People are always surprised to hear that I give my kid baths, I make her food, I do her hair, I pick her outfits, I change her diapers, I know her routines, stick to them, & I take her out places with me just the two of us. It's like people get surprised that I know how to take care of my kid on my own. There's so many people who assume that stuff is mainly a Mama's job & they seem surprised when they find out that I do a lot. I've had so many people tell me how their kid's dad doesn't do most of those things & even my sisters have expressed how much they appreciate that I do so much for my kid. I think it's sad that people even feel the need to thank me for that. The standard for fathers is a lot lower than the standard for mothers. So a father being a normal parent, is applauded. While a mother being a normal parent, is just expected. That's kinda sad
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Sad but true.
Your write up very much reminds me of my own experiences earlier in life when I was the sole caregiver for my very young stepdaughter.
The assumption that fathers do little or nothing in the way of child raising is definitely prevalent in our society.
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@Threepio at least you did it. There's dad's who don't even know what it's like to be the sole caregiver. I'm glad that I did so much while me & her mama were still together because now that we're separated I still feel comfortable taking care of my daughter on my own. We're doing 50/50 so she's still with me half the time. I didn't wanna only have her a little bit I wanna actually raise my kid