Losing a parent.. I can't process my Dad's death..i just feel so numb. He was the only parent...

Casheyane · 31-35, F

Hey, I hear you. It helps to talk about the things and memories you have of him. The happy ones, the ones that really made him special in your heart.

I won't tell you I hope you heal. I know exactly how long that took from me and the price it came with.

But I would tell you that if you let it, you can try to adapt and embrace with those changes that would come, easier and more willing than I did. I hope it would hurt less then. Because living a life, realizing there's a space and things that someone fills up and used to be and do for you can only be painful, especially when you get to see the real size he used to consume in your life.

But see, the love he gave you will never go away. It is still there with you. And I for one, hope that you would get to see. Strength is a choice we get to take every moment of everyday. I hope his love becomes part of your strength. And the overwhelming sadness..the grief...the heartache...it can be poured into something or some people.

Someone once gave an apt direction of grief. He/she had called it love with no direction. I thought and still thinks it makes perfect sense.

Time matters but it is really your choices and what you do with it, what you allow and don't allow, what you let and not let in that heals. It will be a journey, maybe the hardest one for you yet, but one day, it'd get better. It will. So hang in there.

lissah · 36-40, F

It's really hard to lose a parent. I lost both of mine the week I graduated high school. I'm so sorry for your loss. Dont let anyone rush your grieving time or tell you how to do it.

val70 · 51-55

I feel for you. My own dad is at the end of his life. I'm trying now everything that I know about to make his existance as an old man of 88 as nice as possible. Reduced my work to part-time just to have more time with him, etc. You're in my prayers

TexChik · F

I'm so sorry . Losing my Daddy crushed me. Be numb while you can , then grieve when you are able.

FreeSpirit1 · F

It’s one of life’s cruelties having to say goodbye to parents, I lost both in the same year…..it’s not easy. Stay strong.

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

I am sorry for your loss, my sincere condoleances!
It helps to remember the good moments, it will take time.
If ever you just want to chat, you can message me, remember the time difference
I will always reply

LadyGrace

My sincerest and deepest condolences. I will pray for God to comfort and help you.

basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M

I'm sorry.
I understand the pain.
I lost the only parent I had left this year in January.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

I'm sorry. Grief sucks!!! I've lost both of mine, and I found regardless if it's expected [ie terminal cancer] or unexpected [heart attack] it's always difficult.