Has anyone been able to reconcile with estranged adult /teen daughters? What is your secret?
Many thx. 3yrs estranged from 17yr and 19yr old now. My 14yr old son is still with me
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I was pretty depressed for a period of time when they were young…my oldest at the time 9yrs old resented the emotional abandonment as she had to look after her 7yr old and 5yr old siblings on my bad days when I was bed rotting. At 15yrs oldest and middle daughter left for their mom’s place.
I’ve apologized and I know they were little so I can see how enraged she and helpless she would have felt. I am respecting their boundaries and wishes and only communicate during birthdays and holidays but I know they have a right to how bad they felt and I should have got support from their mom when I was really sick. I now just have to keep being firm in my love and wait for them to come around . Hope they can one day realize how awful mental health can be and I thought I was doing the best that I can. Forgiveness is pretty huge but I don’t expect it
I was pretty depressed for a period of time when they were young…my oldest at the time 9yrs old resented the emotional abandonment as she had to look after her 7yr old and 5yr old siblings on my bad days when I was bed rotting. At 15yrs oldest and middle daughter left for their mom’s place.
I’ve apologized and I know they were little so I can see how enraged she and helpless she would have felt. I am respecting their boundaries and wishes and only communicate during birthdays and holidays but I know they have a right to how bad they felt and I should have got support from their mom when I was really sick. I now just have to keep being firm in my love and wait for them to come around . Hope they can one day realize how awful mental health can be and I thought I was doing the best that I can. Forgiveness is pretty huge but I don’t expect it
@MrEverclearBlueSkies Have you communicated any of this to them? I’m guessing some of it but perhaps you can get into more detail in a letter? Just throwing out some ideas off the top of my head. I’ve struggled with depression my entire life so I know how debilitating it can be and how hard it can be for people to understand.