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She is 10 years old

And has never had any family except me. No grandparents, no aunts nor uncles, no cousins, no siblings. Just an unwed mother that loves her more than anything in this fucked up world.

He denied her at birth until i forced him to take a test. He has another daughter a month older. He signed over all his parental rights in exchange for no responsibility, visitation, or support.

Now he has changed his mind. Or maybe his parents changed it for him.
He doesnt know what sports she plays, what her favorite color is, what she doesnt like to eat, or anything else about her except her birthday. He doesnt know that she looks like him. But acts like me, he is gonna hate that. He doesnt even know how to spell her name.

I have battled with myself over what to do. I even considered moving and changing my name. You know that it costs less than $100 to change your name.

But i cant deny her what i have not been able to provide her with. I cant deny her to have a chance at a normal life with a family. I cant deny her the chance to know her father.

I can only pray that he has changed. That he isnt the rude, spoiled, selfish dick that he once was. He will have limited, paid supervised visitation with her until i can trust him. I just hope that i am making the right decision.
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If he did indeed give up custody, bht wants to be part of her life, I would contact a lawyer and have him draw up a contract on conditional visitation, he visits, not take her (at first). I would wait till she is twelve for unsupervised visits.

I would also let him take her half sister with him on visits. But I would also want a few only visits before she ever meets him physically.

You are the parent, take what ever stipulation you care to put in the contract, and have it notorized when he signs it.

Then make two copies, keep one, give the other to the lawyer.

It is absolute proof you were willing to cooperate to a degree despite him giving up all rights. No judge is going to buy his bullshit otherwise if you held all the cards.

If it wasn't for the sibling, or her inevitable curiosity about her dad, I wouldn't bother about this till she was 16. But she has a sister out there. No need to punish the two of them because you and the dad don't get along.
lissah · 36-40, F
@Dignaga he has hired an attorney to ask for visitation rights. 4 hours every 2 weeks. It is supervised thru the court and he will pay $50 an hour fee. He can bring his wife, daughter, and parents with my consent.
@lissah If he gave up custody he doesn't have a right back in. I recommend you draw up your own contract, and don't appear to unreasonable. Make sure it favors your supervision.
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