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She is 10 years old

And has never had any family except me. No grandparents, no aunts nor uncles, no cousins, no siblings. Just an unwed mother that loves her more than anything in this fucked up world.

He denied her at birth until i forced him to take a test. He has another daughter a month older. He signed over all his parental rights in exchange for no responsibility, visitation, or support.

Now he has changed his mind. Or maybe his parents changed it for him.
He doesnt know what sports she plays, what her favorite color is, what she doesnt like to eat, or anything else about her except her birthday. He doesnt know that she looks like him. But acts like me, he is gonna hate that. He doesnt even know how to spell her name.

I have battled with myself over what to do. I even considered moving and changing my name. You know that it costs less than $100 to change your name.

But i cant deny her what i have not been able to provide her with. I cant deny her to have a chance at a normal life with a family. I cant deny her the chance to know her father.

I can only pray that he has changed. That he isnt the rude, spoiled, selfish dick that he once was. He will have limited, paid supervised visitation with her until i can trust him. I just hope that i am making the right decision.
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KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
If I was you I would take it slow. It's one thing to make mistakes for a little while but if he has a long pattern in history of doing this then I would not over commit at all nor would I be quick to jump back into a relationship with the man just because you had a child together.

Honestly that is the stupidest thing you can do is be somewhere that is truly unhealthy for the both of you just trying to achieve a family dynamic that doesn't exist of his own free will in the first place. Trying hard to patch things up is one thing but remember it takes two to do so
lissah · 36-40, F
@KingofBones1 he has a long history of being a bad boy. But i have no intention of having any kind of relationship with him. He has hired an attorney to ask for visitation. It is 4 hours every 2 weeks. It is supervised and he will pay $50 hour.
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KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
@lissah yeah I definitely agree when it comes to airing dirty laundry in front of the kids that's a big No-No. I don't care what two parents have gone through you don't ever say that s*** or say negative s*** about the other parent in front of little children I agree with you wholeheartedly. And if he mistreats her not only he should have his visitation yanked the mother f***** ought to be put in a very special kind of category for that s*** sounds like he's lucky to even have a blessing at this point. Again I'm also sorry if I seem a little better I grew up in a broken home it's finally getting a little bit better in later years and my father and I we're on a friendly basis but we've been through a lot of s***
KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
@lissah thank God for the one that I called Dad my stepdad he taught me a lot of good ethics and values it wasn't for that I'd be real f***** up. I hope that one day you and your daughter can find good man to be that same kind of influence and good person with both of you deserve
lissah · 36-40, F
@KingofBones1 thank you. I hope so too cuz i have always felt guilty for her not having a father.
KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
@lissah yeah I understand but it's not your fault all you did was fall in love unfortunately with the wrong man. Hopefully this time around you will get a good man that understands if he does fall in love with you it's your beautiful daughters part of the package as well and he should be the kind of man that not only accepts that but looks forward to that
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