Why is my aunt so worried about me?! I am not a child!

She always wants to know how I’m going to do my hair and what I’m wearing when I was going to my grandpa’s memorial. Look I am grateful that she cares but I am not a child! I am 21 not 5! People treat autistic adults like their children! I love that she cares but I’m not her child! I’m her niece. Everyone in the family tells me my Aunt (name) really loves me so much and she loves it when I walk to her, come over and I am the most important person in her life. What about my older siblings? Her own kids? Her kids are important. I don’t know if it’s autistic or if I’m “special” to her? She said once I was her favorite relative. I mean I’m flattered but she needs to stop worrying about me. My other aunt said, “Fine do you. We’re all trying to help you. I know it’s hard but we just want you to look nice because you don’t always look after yourself. Be that way.”
Look I’m going through a loss okay? Everyone just leave me alone!