On parenting
What ways do you wish your parents had shown love or supported you as a teenager or young adult?
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Hard to answer because for so long I have accepted that how it was could never have been any different.
Both my parents were alcoholics. Each, in different ways, was badly traumatised by her and his parents. They lived in an era when psychologists understood little and it was thought shameful to reach out for help.
My mother discovered she hated being a mother almost as soon as I was born. She could not express affection, approval or love.
My father used that to make use of me.
I've done many years of therapy and believe I've overcome most of my problems. It's been hard slog but well worth it.
I think, when we're adults, we're responsible for healing ourselves.
There's really no point in blaming parents or others.
Both my parents were alcoholics. Each, in different ways, was badly traumatised by her and his parents. They lived in an era when psychologists understood little and it was thought shameful to reach out for help.
My mother discovered she hated being a mother almost as soon as I was born. She could not express affection, approval or love.
My father used that to make use of me.
I've done many years of therapy and believe I've overcome most of my problems. It's been hard slog but well worth it.
I think, when we're adults, we're responsible for healing ourselves.
There's really no point in blaming parents or others.