Did you get on with your parents ?

@OogieBoogie What a jerk

@SW-User i think hes got some sort of emotional disorder or trauma or something. Hes not right. He has trouble with 'having to be perfect'.
Which is a shame .

The thing is, he disowned each one of us pretty much as we became legal adults. I have this theory that he couldnt handle us becoming smarter as we got life experience. That he feared one day , one of us would outsmart him in a conversation. He just couldn't handle ever being wrong.

He disowned us over the oddest things ....even back then i thought " this is weird ".

@OogieBoogie Sounds more like he needs counseling...

@SW-User id agree.
But how would a man who never thinks hes wrong ever think hed need counselling 😂

@OogieBoogie ... sad tale all around.
Heck..my wife is smarter than me... my ego doesn't suffer from that... I'm proud of her.

@SW-User that's nice.🤗
I think its a bonus to have a smart partner.
But theres all types of smarts. My dad was a genius, so clever.

Just not emotionally smart 😒

@OogieBoogie Ah yes... seems that people can be unbalanced. My brother probably qualifies as a genius... and he's very level-headed, but admits his interactions with peers... they are not all quite "right" ...

@OogieBoogie you are smart to have figured all that out. Those are unusual conclusions but valid still. It must have been very difficult for you to grow up.

@revenant he was pretty good while we were kids. I used to spend ages witb him in his shed. I loved my time with him. He was a teacher, engineer , builder, mechanic and inventor, so he was exceedingly creative .

It was just as we reached adulthood he got all weird .
I mean , i left a lot out. But us kids talked to each other a lot, and compared instances, and sorta observed him, and even tested our hypothesis , (yes this is sounding weird within itself, but my family was bought up very intellectual like...so it was kinda a logical thing to do.😂)
Anyway, upshot was, he couldn't cope with losing an argument. (i have one brother who excels in logic and is a lead programer and he made a point of out reasoning my dad.....it wasnt pretty ). Dad resorted to bizarre sarcasm and acting like a child ....it was freaky to watch .

I truly think he was damaged somehow . I mean, we all are in a way. He just refused to accept his imperfections.
And ironically, it was his need for perfection that was his undoing .

@OogieBoogie I believe instinct can really trump logic. " instinct has its own reasons that logic does not understand" like the heart..
you loved your dad though.
What happened to him ?
Parents can really fuckkk our lives..I know mine did on a deep level but perhaps I am guilty also somewhere.

@revenant i think damage can be passed down . And i also think social expectations are to blame for a lot of it.

Its only now parents are feeling safe to parent their own way, break stereotypes etc.

I think he was a product of his own parents damage and expectations .

It was just a shame he never set his own heart free.

@OogieBoogie I definitely think so. Not sure if parents nowadays are any better though.

What happened to him ?